Son's best friend committed suicide, don't know what to do
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He and I talked last night. He showed me the last text message the friend ever sent out in his life (over a month ago now). The text was sent at 2am, an hour before he was found dead, and it said to my son: "Peace out homie". This was when my son was sleeping. He woke in the late morning, saw the text, and he responded with "????". No answer. Then he texted "Are you ok?". No answer forever.
After I looked at the text exchange (or I guess non-exchange), I said to him, "That's staggering."
He limply nodded and we both had no words for a long time.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your son's friend. I'm sorry also that you're having to watch you son go through this. You being there for him and then coming here asking for help shows you're doing your best you can do as you watch him endure this tragic event in his life. I know you're hurting for him and I have to commend you for asking for help.
My brother committed suicide when he was 15 and I was 17. We hung around in the same crowd, so there was the support of my friends. I also had the support of my 6 siblings and church. The worse part for me was watching my Mom being torn apart. I ached so bad for her pain. We didn't have internet back then and she never went for counseling.
Losing a child is the worst pain a Mother can have. My son died almost 5 yrs ago at age 21. It may sound weird, but as much as it hurts, it wasn't suicide or he wasn't murdered or missing. I have to look at it that way. I know those parents go through much worse trauma that I can't imagine.
You're a good loving Mom doing the best for your son. He won't get over it, but he will get through it and especially if he uses the website that the other grieving Mom gave to you.
It may sound weird, but as much as it hurts, it wasn't suicide or he wasn't murdered or missing. I have to look at it that way. I know those parents go through much worse trauma that I can't imagine.
After the funeral, I think I understand what you said. Thinking that 20 years ago she welcomed him into the world only to find he didn't want to be in the world after all.
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