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Time heals all wounds. The more time that passes over the years since the departure of a loved one. You soon realize both how short life is and how fast time goes by.
well we went to visit his widow but she wasnt at her work....we were hoping to drop by for a minute but it didnt work out.So we already are tryign to keep in touch.
True.Im sorry to hear the loss of oldest brother.I will stay in touch with them....I am just giving them time.....I just hesitate because i dont know what to say because the situation is still so surreal to me.I was expecting this to happen 20 to 30 years from now.Its so sad.Thanks for your sympathy,Gerania.
You sound like a sensitive person, and the world needs more of this.
I would send a Christmas card and share a story of how this man impacted your life in a good way, you must have some experiences, it could be something from when you are a child.
They can read the card in private, and in most cases hearing someone letting the family know how their loved one impacted someone's life can mean the world to them.
Hi everyone,
I am still dealing with a loss I experienced recently.My dad's best friend passed away a couple months ago.He was like a father to me.My family has been friends with his family all my life. My dad,me , and his sons and him did a lot of things growing up like camping and fishing. I told him how much he meant to me and how he was like a father to me the night before he died.The death still came as a shock to me because he had access to the best medical care but i guess his cancer wasnt responsive to treatment.I feel sorry for his family because they have to be without him during the holidays.
I never thought of this before much but I was concerned how his family would take Halloween which was recently because Halloween is all about the macabre.I also feel sorry for his family for not having him for Thanksgiving or Christmas.Its been a couple months since he died but I am still shaken up by it.I miss him every day. He had a grandchild and it breaks my heart that she wont get to grow up with him being there or even remember him.Its just a sad situation all the way around.I just came here because i needed a way to grieve.Thanks in advance everybody.I also am heartbroken for his widow.
Is this your 1st death of someone close? My dad was my 1st, he had cancer too but it was a terminal kind. My hub had stage 4 tonsil cancer a few years later, we went to Philadelphia to get treated. He's 10 years out of treatment December 24th. It matters very much where you get treated. You don't get treated in a small town for cancer. You need a university hospital. I regret that we stayed in NJ university cancer center for my dad instead of bringing him to Philly or NY but he said no. What type of cancer did he have?
As for what to say and when, now is good IMO and say what's in your heart. You had special memories with him and how shocked and sad you are and that you don't know what to say to them but you wanted to tell them how much he meant to you.
I had and still have people tell me 14 years later how much they loved my dad and memories of him. It's always nice to be reminded.
You can find a thinking of you card and type something up to send or even FB message or email. Do you have any photos of him you'd like to share?
I'm so sorry for your loss. It still hurts me 14 years later on Thanksgiving and Christmas especially because those were the last 2 holidays I had with my dad.
Thank you ChibaCat.....I am sure i will but I havent talked to them since the funeral.....i just want to give them time and space to mourn.
Maybe they aren't like me but I was a teen when my Nanas died and both times my phone stopped ringing. I felt completely abandoned by friends I talked to daily. They said they were giving me family time. I had wished they still called.
Is this your 1st death of someone close? My dad was my 1st, he had cancer too but it was a terminal kind. My hub had stage 4 tonsil cancer a few years later, we went to Philadelphia to get treated. He's 10 years out of treatment December 24th. It matters very much where you get treated. You don't get treated in a small town for cancer. You need a university hospital. I regret that we stayed in NJ university cancer center for my dad instead of bringing him to Philly or NY but he said no. What type of cancer did he have?
As for what to say and when, now is good IMO and say what's in your heart. You had special memories with him and how shocked and sad you are and that you don't know what to say to them but you wanted to tell them how much he meant to you.
I had and still have people tell me 14 years later how much they loved my dad and memories of him. It's always nice to be reminded.
You can find a thinking of you card and type something up to send or even FB message or email. Do you have any photos of him you'd like to share?
I'm so sorry for your loss. It still hurts me 14 years later on Thanksgiving and Christmas especially because those were the last 2 holidays I had with my dad.
Well....i have had a grandparent and friends pass..My dad's best friend had esophageal cancer. He was treated at the best cancer treatment center in the state but it was too late.
Maybe they aren't like me but I was a teen when my Nanas died and both times my phone stopped ringing. I felt completely abandoned by friends I talked to daily. They said they were giving me family time. I had wished they still called.
Sorry for your loss. Hang in there.
I talked to his widow and two sons recently and we keep in touch with them.Thanks very much.I really appreciate it.
Well....i have had a grandparent and friends pass..My dad's best friend had esophageal cancer. He was treated at the best cancer treatment center in the state but it was too late.
That's a shame because it's one of the easiest to treat; the odds are usually good, especially if it was caused by HPV like my hubs
That's a shame because it's one of the easiest to treat; the odds are usually good, especially if it was caused by HPV like my hubs
Oh no it isn't, Roselvr. My husband died of esophageal cancer. It has one of the highest mortality rates. It is right there with pancreatic cancer. Only 5% of those who have esophageal cancer make it past 5 years if it goes into remission the first time. My hubby made it 3 years. So the "odds" are stacked against someone surviving esophageal cancer.
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I also am heartbroken for his widow.
