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A good friend of mine passed away back on February 28th of this year. He was only 30 years oldl gone way too soon. He was a great guy and a great friend. I've known him since I was 13, and had a lot of grieat times and great memories. We drifted apart in the last few years, only seeing each other once or twice a year if we were lucky. Not because of bad blood or anything, but we just became busy and had other things going on in our lives.
I was going to message him a week before he died, but never got around to it, because I was, "too busy." At the time I wasn't worried, because I knew we would reconnect. Until I got that phone call from both his girlfriend and another friend of his. I had learned that he suffered a massive heart attack the night before and that he didn't make it. My whole world came crashing down. As the day went on, it became more real. I didn't want to believe it. The wake and the funeral was this past weekend, and it has been an emotional roller coaster. I could barely look at him in his casket, because it wasn't how I wanted to remember him.
When his mother ran up and hugged me, I lost it. Same when I hugged his Dad and my friend's girlfriend. I have cried so much this past weekend, and I am struggling with the fact that I never messaged him before he passed. I wish I could see him one more time. I am trying not to blame myself or be hard on myself, but I can't help it. I wanted to tell him how we need to hangout more. There was so many things I wanted to say, and I'll never get that chance.
It's absolutely horrible to see young people die. I've seen it too many times. It's just one more scar.
Yes, it's so sad. He was a great guy and had a big heart. He had a great career, a passion for cars and racing, and he was with his girlfriend of 8 years. I'm pretty sure they were going to get engaged this year and buy a house. It's not fair that this happened to him.
I am so sorry for your loss! It's hard to lose a friend, no matter what age. I am sure your friend knew how much you cared for him. Life just gets in the way sometimes, but that doesn't ever lessen the bond between true friends.
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Thank you. I am trying so hard to not beat myself up over not hanging out as much, but it's so hard not to.
It's sad but unfortunately, the most effective help you'll get is time. In time the good memories will eventually replace the despair you feel now and you'll be thankful for having known him.
I am so sorry for your loss! It's hard to lose a friend, no matter what age. I am sure your friend knew how much you cared for him. Life just gets in the way sometimes, but that doesn't ever lessen the bond between true friends.
Thank you for your kind words. Yes, another one of his friends told me that he always talked about me and had nothing but good things to say. I just wish he was still here with us.
It's sad but unfortunately, the most effective help you'll get is time. In time the good memories will eventually replace the despair you feel now and you'll be thankful for having known him.
Thank you, I needed to be reminded of that. I just have to take it one day at a time. I know he wouldn't want me to beat myself up over this, so I need to remember that to help me move forward.
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Thank you, I needed to be reminded of that. I just have to take it one day at a time. I know he wouldn't want me to beat myself up over this, so I need to remember that to help me move forward.
I lost an older sister when I was 23 and 47 years later I still miss her. I liken the loss to a crude wound in your heart, it hurts like hell, with time it scars over, the hole is still there but the pain is replaced by the happiness of having known them. Good luck to you, as I've said, time will be your greatest healer.
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