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Old 03-19-2020, 06:48 PM
 
Location: Virginia
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I had a phone call from my brother's cell phone today that I missed because I was outside trying to mow the lawn. I figured at first it was about his birthday tomorrow. However, it was a message from a lady who said to call her. When I got in touch with her, it was to find out that my brother had died from an aggressive cancer that they only discovered in January. He had asked to be taken home and the people from his church had cared for him until his passing. I'm so grateful that he had a wonderful supportive community (a very small mountain town in Arkansas) at the end of his life, but I'm now the only surviving sibling of three. I feel so alone now because there's no one I can really talk to about our parents or our life growing up.
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Old 03-19-2020, 07:43 PM
 
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Sorry for your loss..
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Old 03-19-2020, 08:03 PM
 
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Well... you can talk to us. Or write down your memories for future generations.

I'm very sorry for your loss. That was really fast.

I've heard told when a person finds favour with God, they are called home around their birthday.
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Old 03-19-2020, 08:13 PM
 
Location: Virginia
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Well... you can talk to us. Or write down your memories for future generations.

I'm very sorry for your loss. That was really fast.

I've heard told when a person finds favour with God, they are called home around their birthday.
That's a really nice thought. Thank you. I know he spent a lot of time in the last year giving out food to the homeless with his church group, and he got a lot of personal fulfillment doing that.
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Old 03-19-2020, 09:00 PM
 
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I had a phone call from my brother's cell phone today that I missed because I was outside trying to mow the lawn. I figured at first it was about his birthday tomorrow. However, it was a message from a lady who said to call her. When I got in touch with her, it was to find out that my brother had died from an aggressive cancer that they only discovered in January. He had asked to be taken home and the people from his church had cared for him until his passing. I'm so grateful that he had a wonderful supportive community (a very small mountain town in Arkansas) at the end of his life, but I'm now the only surviving sibling of three. I feel so alone now because there's no one I can really talk to about our parents or our life growing up.
I'm so sorry for your loss. But you could still talk to friends, cousins, aunt, uncles, spouses, and your children.
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Old 03-19-2020, 10:49 PM
 
Location: Minnesota
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Did he have any children? If he did writing about how you grew up with him, things you did in everyday life and stuff you didn't tell your parents about that you shouldn't have done. It seems like we don't take the time to tell these little things to your own kids about it are interesting.

My mom told us kids her and some older sisters would sneak out and take their fathers car on rides in the middle of the night. Her older sisters only brought her along because she new how to disconnect and reconnect the odometer. He always checked the milage but didn't know his kids outsmarted him.
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Old 03-20-2020, 08:40 AM
 
Location: Virginia
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I'm so sorry for your loss. But you could still talk to friends, cousins, aunt, uncles, spouses, and your children.
Unfortunately. all I have left is a niece and a nephew. I called my niece last night and we had a good talk; I'm closer to her. My nephew travels a lot and we're not close.
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Old 03-20-2020, 09:21 AM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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My condolences.


I got that kind of call in 2014 when my kid brother died of a heart attack. He was 61. 6 years younger than I.
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Old 03-20-2020, 11:38 AM
 
Location: Virginia
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My condolences.


I got that kind of call in 2014 when my kid brother died of a heart attack. He was 61. 6 years younger than I.
Thank you. Those kinds of phone calls are hell, aren't they? I got one similar to yours when my only sister died from a heart attack two years ago. I'll never get over her death, as she was my dearest friend.
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Old 03-20-2020, 01:24 PM
 
Location: Riverside Ca
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I had a phone call from my brother's cell phone today that I missed because I was outside trying to mow the lawn. I figured at first it was about his birthday tomorrow. However, it was a message from a lady who said to call her. When I got in touch with her, it was to find out that my brother had died from an aggressive cancer that they only discovered in January. He had asked to be taken home and the people from his church had cared for him until his passing. I'm so grateful that he had a wonderful supportive community (a very small mountain town in Arkansas) at the end of his life, but I'm now the only surviving sibling of three. I feel so alone now because there's no one I can really talk to about our parents or our life growing up.
Damn. Was it pancreatic? I had a friend die from that. Sorry for your loss
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