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When my FIL passed away, there was an obit-I don't know who paid for it. I THINK it was the funeral home but they would only include blood-relatives and it would cost more if my name was include. So my name was omitted for it.
I remember my grandparents wakes when I was little. They were two days, from 2-4 and 7-9. The funeral was in church, then the cemetary......then we all would go to a restaurant, have brunch.....with drinks of course. Back then I think funerals cost just as much as weddings.
At my moms funeral we went to a restaurant afterwards. I would assume that would be probably more than norm today.
But where I grew up, and where my family came from, we didn’t have restaurants. So the wakes were always held at the decedents household with food brought by many loving people. Somehow they all coordinated so not everybody brought funeral potatoes, but even if they had I think those suckers are so good that they would’ve been gone anyway.
It’s so strange that where I grew up when I talk to people who were local they are now about how it was, it is so hard for them to believe. The road I used to ride my bike bike down all the time is now in the midst of being constructed as a four-lane road. As the song says, the times they are a’changin...
Obituaries, burials ? 1948, my uncle was cremated, his urn in a mausoleum near our home The mausoleum was outside the cemetery, next to a stone chapel. Mom would purchase flowers from flower shop close by; inside the mausoleum, peaceful, fountains, carnaries singing from cages hanging from above. As a child felt a peace, honoring a loved one.
This was Mountain View Cemetery, Oakland, California.
Burial is a common practice I later learned, cremation less common, especially years ago.
I dislike all the fuss around funerals. Maybe it comes from having had to attend too many of them as a kid (lots of older relatives.) For hubby and me there will be no funerals, no obits, no fuss. Our kids already know this and our trust spells it out. Anyone who needs to know will know. I just don't feel any need to have it announced and it has nothing to do with cost.
Not all that long ago, everybody had an obituary in the local newspaper. Then the local newspaper started charging for them by the inch. All they'll do now is give a simple death notice with notation of a funeral time, date and place, but now with COVID 19, a lot of people aren't even having a graveside service.
You have to go to the funeral home website to find any obituary or even a full obituary.
I hate it because there are no standards. Obituaries used to be valuable resources of info with the birth and death dates mentioned, place of death, relatives, where the relative lives, fairly dependable name spellings.
Now nobody doublechecks checks any of that and not all obituaries have the same type of info.
It's really frustrating.
I have had some friends pass away and their family had nothing. It deprives me of a chance to mourn the person and express my concern and love for that person to their family. Of course they're mourning, but so are we, the non-family members. You'd think those expressions would help comfort them.
Not all that long ago, everybody had an obituary in the local newspaper. Then the local newspaper started charging for them by the inch. All they'll do now is give a simple death notice with notation of a funeral time, date and place, but now with COVID 19, a lot of people aren't even having a graveside service.
You have to go to the funeral home website to find any obituary or even a full obituary.
I hate it because there are no standards. Obituaries used to be valuable resources of info with the birth and death dates mentioned, place of death, relatives, where the relative lives, fairly dependable name spellings.
Now nobody doublechecks checks any of that and not all obituaries have the same type of info.
It's really frustrating.
I have had some friends pass away and their family had nothing. It deprives me of a chance to mourn the person and express my concern and love for that person to their family. Of course they're mourning, but so are we, the non-family members. You'd think those expressions would help comfort them.
I have a couple of close friends who are not pleased with me because of my plans to not have a funeral.
I always check the obituaries to see if I'm still alive.
Up until recently, Carl Reiner did that too.
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Solly says — Be nice!
