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Old 02-26-2008, 11:58 AM
 
Location: Indiana
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So I was at church one day and there is this lady who had obviously colored her hair. It was definitely different than the week before. It looked really good and I complimented her on it. Another lady overheard me and said, "You're not supposed to mention that!"

Huh???

I've had people notice when I color my hair, and I don't mind. I know everyone likes a compliment from time to time. So my question is, why should I not pay a compliment if it is regarding hair color. Is this some unspoken rule that I have never heard of? Or was the lady just being wierd?
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Old 02-26-2008, 12:07 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I guess some people might be sensitive to it, but I don't think most are. So many people color their hair for all kinds of reasons these days, I really don't see a big deal about mentioning it.

I color mine now to cover some grey. Recently, I started using a "blonder" color than my normal light brown and several people did compliment it. Didn't bother me. Frankly, it was good to get some feedback as to what looked better on me. I guess some people might not want you to know that their hair is grey w/o coloring it. But again, people color their hair for all kinds of reasons these days.
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Old 02-26-2008, 12:12 PM
 
Location: Denver
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I went from extremely blonde to jet black. Believe me, everyone knows I color my hair! I've never hidden the fact. Not sure what the big deal would be, but some people can be sensitive I suppose. You were just trying to be nice, so I wouldn't worry about it too much.
Now if you did what one person said to me - "Wow, I think I liked you blonde better".....that's a different story.
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Old 02-26-2008, 12:15 PM
 
Location: Indiana
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I went from extremely blonde to jet black. Believe me, everyone knows I color my hair! I've never hidden the fact. Not sure what the big deal would be, but some people can be sensitive I suppose. You were just trying to be nice, so I wouldn't worry about it too much.
Now if you did what one person said to me - "Wow, I think I liked you blonde better".....that's a different story.
Now that would be rude!

The one I was giving the compliment to said thank you. It was someone else who told me I shouldn't have said it. This happened over a year ago, I've just wondered about it since then....and I've been a little hesitant to say anything to anyone else (except very close friends/family) regarding hair color.
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Old 02-26-2008, 02:03 PM
 
Location: Wake Forest
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I don't know that I remember what color my REAL hair color IS...lol

I've never considered it rude to ask, or be asked (complimented, etc...)

I think everyone I know colors it at least occasionally.
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Old 02-26-2008, 04:00 PM
 
Location: Denver
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Now that would be rude!

The one I was giving the compliment to said thank you. It was someone else who told me I shouldn't have said it. This happened over a year ago, I've just wondered about it since then....and I've been a little hesitant to say anything to anyone else (except very close friends/family) regarding hair color.
I actually think the woman who overheard you (she was eaves dropping) was the rude one
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Old 02-26-2008, 08:18 PM
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Even before I colored my hair blonder, people still thought I dyed it & was lying (have naturally blondish highlights in my hair). But now that I do - why lie?
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Old 02-26-2008, 08:33 PM
 
Location: The Big D
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I don't know that I remember what color my REAL hair color IS...lol

I've never considered it rude to ask, or be asked (complimented, etc...)

I think everyone I know colors it at least occasionally.
Right there with ya on that one. I've been coloring my hair for so long now.......... at may age I could very likely have some grey hairs in there but hereditary wise I could bypass the grey stage. But my natural color is just blah. It pretty much stays the same color but w/ a lighter "summer" highlight too it. I do both highlights and lowlights and they also look at my girls haircolor and that way I look like them in that way.

I also don't mind if someone says something. I think it DOES make a woman feel good about herself if she KNOWS that someone actually NOTICED and paid them a very nice compliment. It's not like you stood up in front of everyone in the pulpit and said it. Now THAT would be a different story but just in conversation............ no problem at all. Afterall it could be just the one thing she needed to make her have a better day.
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Old 02-26-2008, 08:41 PM
 
Location: Long Island
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Changing hair color today is just another accessory, as far as I'm concerned. I also have NO idea what my actual hair color is! I've been coloring it for so long and have gone through so many different colors, it's always a surprise to family members when they see me. It's like having a new hairstyle. I'm actually flattered if someone notices! Except when I don't keep it up...and then my son makes comments about all the white hairs! OOPS!
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Old 02-26-2008, 09:49 PM
 
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It's okay to talk openly about hair color.

Most women color their hair even before they turn gray!

What you don't want to do is compliment a woman on her face lift. That's a no-no.
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