one of the reason why i picked hawaii as a retirement place (fit in)

[henry1]

one of the biggest reason i picked hawaii as a retirement because of my grandkids who are mixed race of Korean and American and other one is mixed between hispanic and white and hawaii is the home to alot of socalled mixed race people and i thought it would be better for them to come someplace where the mix race is a normal look instead of beening outside the normal looks of people

one set of the grandkids is a mixed korean and white has a blond hair and blue eyes and total asian features as girls and yes i know the guys are all ready looking at them like there hot and one lady asked us if we dried there hair that color and let them wear contacts lense at there age and we told her it all natural and she goes really and then walked away ..

so that was one of the reason why i chose hawaii as a retirement place

[Balad1]

They will fit in better here but only so far. If you're not local in Hawaii your not fully accepted no matter what your ethnic background.

[flordelis]

Originally Posted by Balad1

They will fit in better here but only so far. If you're not local in Hawaii your not fully accepted no matter what your ethnic background.

Calender check, please.

[Balad1]

Reality check please, I live here.

[OpenD]

I'm with henry1 and flordelis on this one. I find that so-called "mixed race" people are more accepted in Hawai'i than anyplace else in the country.

[henry1]

plus i love the fact that when i have taken the oldest grandkid with me as a treat because her younger sister was with the chickenpox at the time and i thought it would be good time to get her out of the house and with a road trip with me before she was killed by her mother over way she was treating her younger sister at the time ..

plus there is nothing like sisterly love when one is standing at the window watching the sister drive away in the taxi to go to the airport and the other is sticking her tounge out at her as we drive off and the moral of the story was when the youngest got to go with me along with two of the other grandkids with me on that trip because of there amom and dad was going somewhere and i figure it would be a good time to go and check up on something i had to do anyway and i would take them as a treat for doing good in school .

the oldest sister was sick with the flu and could not come with us on that trip and there was the younger sister sticking out her tounge as a we drove off to go to the airport ..

there on the big island it did open doors alot faster with some of the locals when they found that the kids where my grandkids and some of the locals did help me alot more when dealing with some of the things i was trying to get done at the time ..

one lady did ask me when i was there last time how was my grandkids and how are they doing and when are they comeing back to vist me and i told her that that all the grandkids will all be comeing this summer time when they get out of school to vist there place and go camping for a few days with me as we start on some of the projects around the place..

i get free labor this way also for babysitting dureing my vaction comeing up in july ..

[Balad1]

Originally Posted by OpenD

I'm with henry1 and flordelis on this one. I find that so-called "mixed race" people are more accepted in Hawai'i than anyplace else in the country.

I agree that they are more accepted, my statement was "fully accepted".

Any race other than whites are more accepted.

[winkosmosis]

Originally Posted by Balad1

I agree that they are more accepted, my statement was "fully accepted".

Any race other than whites are more accepted.

Well if you're mixed nobody can tell you're not local until you open your mouth... and even then, not necessarily because not every local talks pidgin or has a Hawaiian accent.

[kukuicake]

I think sometimes people mean by "fully accepted" that they are never noticed as having come from somewhere else. I certainly have heard expats complaining in Australia that "no matter how long you live here you will never be fully one of them".. to which I reply, of course you won't. It's just the way life works, if your whole background and upbringing took place somewhere else you will not share that with the people you live amongst. You're cut off from a huge chunk of their identity and you will always be the convert (if you really love it there, lol) or the <any place/race name meaning you didn't originate here>.

People will always say things that possibly sound dismissive but are just acknowledging that you wouldn't know from experience what they are referring to because you never had that experience.

People will always ask you where you're from if your accent or other things betray you and many will then refer to you as "the <foreign place>" even if you live there for 20 years. It's just a way of identifying you and the sooner you realize that this IS your identity because you DO come from another place the better.

I do think that this is a shock to some people, when they move to an island or another country or even a community with a long ethnic history they don't share in their own state. They are not used to being identified as someone who came from outside, as "other" than the majority even though they have done this themselves to people their whole lives. Some people get fixated on this experience and it upsets them, rather than embracing what being an expat can offer they chafe at every reminder that they are not of this place originally. From that you get accusations of everything from snobby to racism leveled at their new home.