How would locals treat a hapa haole from the mainland?

[aloha_silverlining]

I fully agree with MD...have a friendly attitude, smile, say "aloha" even the mainland "hi"...all will be well.

This applies to any color! Remember an AH is an AH on the mainland or on the islands, just don't be one.

You'll do fine!

[LaTrang]

Originally Posted by Calico Salsa

I think you'll get some flak here, but the majority of it will be because that's what happens in high school. You're in the midst of it now, so this might be hard to hear. Gosh knows, I heard it then and didn't really realize it until years later.

High school is only 4 years of your life, but you can see how people remember it so clearly for their whole lifetime. They reminisce, they have memories good and bad. Some people get stuck on what happened to them then, or who they thought they should be, or how they should have done something different. The question is, why do only 4 years out of your life stand out for so many people?

I think the answer is because these really are very formative years. You are going through a time when you are developing your own identity. You have been a child, then a youngster, then a teen in your parent's home. Your identity has been primarily from there. But now you are building more adult relationships, learning about life and love and how people act to each other. Sometimes it's wonderful, and sometimes it's very hard.

Yes, people will give you trash about your parents. But realize that they give EVERYONE trash about something. Don't listen to just what they say about you. Listen to what those people say about anyone and everyone.. then realize it's coming from them, and has nothing to do with you.

Your parents adopted you... they chose you and raised you and probably did the best they could. Your race wasn't an issue for them and nor should theirs be for you. WHO CARES what some guy or gal in high school says? The huge majority of those people will be out of your life in another year now. But your parents are there for the length of your mutual lives.

Sorry, some of your life is going to suck. Someone will call you out about race, here in Hawaii or anywhere else. If it's not that, it will about your gender, or your hair color, or your clothes, or your music. It doesn't matter. What matters is what decisions you make when they do that. Do you agree with them and waste your time trying to be what you think they want? Do you let them affect you? Do you emulate them and treat others poorly?

You cannot change your race. You cannot change your parent's race. Worry about the things you can change. Those are how you behave, how you treat people, and how you treat yourself. Do your very best at those things, and you'll be fine.

Here's another tip - people who treat themselves and others with respect and friendliness are well admired and liked. People who are liked are not hassled as much. Treat yourself well, treat others well, be strong and confident, and it will work in your favor. Sell out and you are nothing and people will treat you as such.

Here is another tip. If somebody gives you a hard time and gets physical. Kick the living crap out of them, and then kick it out of them again until you are exhausted, and then go home and take a short nap. Enough of the childish racism. It is, after all, 2011. Polynesians are no more or less special than anyone else (including whites).