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Old 09-09-2010, 08:50 AM
 
Location: NYC
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He's a grown man, let him live his own life. Maybe he has decided he doesn't like the side effects of bp medication - I know I don't - and would rather with the higher bp. It's a perfectly legit stance.
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Old 09-09-2010, 09:15 AM
 
Location: Georgia, USA
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He's a grown man, let him live his own life. Maybe he has decided he doesn't like the side effects of bp medication - I know I don't - and would rather with the higher bp. It's a perfectly legit stance.

Do you have long term care insurance? Is someone in your family willing to provide you with care 24/7/365? He may be a grown man, but his decision could ruin his family's lives for a few years.

What side effects from BP medication are worse than a heart attack, a stroke, or kidney failure? Heart surgery and dialysis are no picnics!
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Old 09-09-2010, 09:29 AM
 
Location: Greenwood Village, Colorado
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Do you have long term care insurance? Is someone in your family willing to provide you with care 24/7/365? He may be a grown man, but his decision could ruin his family's lives for a few years.

What side effects from BP medication are worse than a heart attack, a stroke, or kidney failure? Heart surgery and dialysis are no picnics!

I was on BP medication and my pulse went up to 110, I was out of breath just walking across the room, I was tired and so dizzy I almost fainted. It may not affect everyone that way, but they do have side effects and I think thats why people stop taking them.

He's 75 years old, he probably doesn't want to deal with it.

They just put me on 10mg lisinpril and I am scared to take it! I can't blame him.
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Old 09-09-2010, 10:00 AM
 
Location: NYC
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Do you have long term care insurance? Is someone in your family willing to provide you with care 24/7/365? He may be a grown man, but his decision could ruin his family's lives for a few years.

What side effects from BP medication are worse than a heart attack, a stroke, or kidney failure? Heart surgery and dialysis are no picnics!
What an amazingly selfish way of viewing this.

BP medication side effects are no picnic. If he as a grown man does not want to deal with it, that is his decision to make.
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Old 09-09-2010, 10:15 AM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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Tell him that blood pressure medication is cheap and safe- mine is $4.00 a month- A LOT cheaper than the nursing home will be after his stroke, and to quit acting like a child.
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Old 09-09-2010, 10:51 AM
 
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What an amazingly selfish way of viewing this.

BP medication side effects are no picnic. If he as a grown man does not want to deal with it, that is his decision to make.

I take BP medication and have no side effects whatsoever --- except a few additional trips to the bathroom in the morning as the diuretic kicks in. There is no guarantee that he will have side effects. He won't know until he tries it.

And I believe it is more selfish to not take the medication and make your family suffer the consequences, even if you are willing to accept the increased risk of heart attack, stroke, and renal failure for yourself.
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Old 09-09-2010, 10:53 AM
 
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Having cared for two parents (my MIL and Mother) who have had strokes, I would tell him the decision is his but that I will only care for him if he cares for himself first. I have lost years of MY ADULT life caring for them because they did not. And that is NOT incredibly selfish!
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Old 09-09-2010, 12:03 PM
 
Location: NYC
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I take BP medication and have no side effects whatsoever --- except a few additional trips to the bathroom in the morning as the diuretic kicks in. There is no guarantee that he will have side effects. He won't know until he tries it.

And I believe it is more selfish to not take the medication and make your family suffer the consequences, even if you are willing to accept the increased risk of heart attack, stroke, and renal failure for yourself.
But that's you. You can't speak about a person you have never even met - and even if you did meet him, I'd still say that's not a decision for you to make. He is a grown man who seemingly is of sound mind, so its his choice.

Being elderly doesn't mean your rights to make your own decisions should be automatically revoked.
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Old 09-09-2010, 02:41 PM
 
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But that's you. You can't speak about a person you have never even met - and even if you did meet him, I'd still say that's not a decision for you to make. He is a grown man who seemingly is of sound mind, so its his choice.

Being elderly doesn't mean your rights to make your own decisions should be automatically revoked.
I can't believe I'm agreeing with you on something but this time I completely agree with what you have stated
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Old 09-09-2010, 02:42 PM
 
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And OP, not everyone with hypertension goes on to have problems just as not everyone who smokes gets lung cancer.
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