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Old 08-18-2011, 08:20 PM
 
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It is a huge medical liability to prescribe a medication to a person that a Dr. has never met. You could have an allergic reaction, or any number of other things, you aren't their patient they will not risk giving you a script and have a lawsuit filed against them.

It seems like you are not going to get the solution you are looking for, best of luck with your medical issues.
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:20 PM
 
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I have found women PA's to be much better at doing pelvic exams than men. Call, and talk to the PA when you make the appointment, tell her your issue, she will probably have you come in for a consultation, and give you the script for the meds then, then come back the next time for the exam. The consultation would be good for you to, to discuss your health problems, and stress levels with a pelvic exam. And you can evaluate if this is the right person for you. If you don't feel like it, you can cancel the pelvic exam.
I like this reply best so far, but the clinic I've been to only has a nurse and an office manager, in addition to the male doctor. I guess I'll have to get a referral from him after all, and maybe, if I'm lucky, I can get him to hook me up with a 10mg. V to take to the appt. w/ his female colleague. (IF I'm lucky! But he'll probably deny me).
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:21 PM
 
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Jasper12- My thoughts exactly!
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:41 PM
 
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It took me a really long time to find a good doctor I really trust. I think that's what you need to do, is find a doctor you feel comfortable with and develop a relationship with them. It might sound trivial but bed side manner is really important. You need to be able to feel like you can be open and honest with someone who is looking between your legs.

That said, I disagree with the posters who suggested you go the psychological route first. Even if there is some sort of psychological component (I was molested a lot as a child, so gyno appointments are always a nightmare for me, in other words I know that is a very real concern) you still need to rule out any physical causes.

BTW I also don't think men vs. women make a difference. The gynecologist I go to now, who I've finally been able to feel comfortable with, is male. Ironically enough, he's much more sensitive to my needs, both physical and emotional, than any female gynecologist I've ever had. I wouldn't knock a gyno just cause they're male.
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:41 PM
 
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I really think that you need therapy, before an appointment for a pelvic exam. Most people don't equate a medical exam with rape. Get treatment.
Have you had a pelvic exam? Do you know what it entails?! They make you strip from the waist down and pry your ***** open and stick stuff up in there! And you didn't meet those sadistic bastards that called themselves a nurse and a doctor! It was very traumatizing. There's got to be a better way to get diagnosed without having to go through that hell again. They could've at least bought me dinner and drinks first before molesting me like they did!
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:48 PM
 
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I really think that you need therapy, before an appointment for a pelvic exam. Most people don't equate a medical exam with rape. Get treatment.
Have you ever had a pelvic exam with vaginismus? Not to mention, I warned my doctor about my anxiety and he said that he gets it with a lot of his patients, even ones who don't have a history of abuse. Sitting there naked is already being put in a pretty vulnerable position. It's not like an ear appointment where you remain fully dressed.
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:52 PM
 
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It took me a really long time to find a good doctor I really trust. I think that's what you need to do, is find a doctor you feel comfortable with and develop a relationship with them. It might sound trivial but bed side manner is really important. You need to be able to feel like you can be open and honest with someone who is looking between your legs.

That said, I disagree with the posters who suggested you go the psychological route first. Even if there is some sort of psychological component (I was molested a lot as a child, so gyno appointments are always a nightmare for me, in other words I know that is a very real concern) you still need to rule out any physical causes.
Right. Because a shrink won't stop the bleeding and won't be able to tell me why it won't stop. That's why I need to shop for a doc and lean on a pill and maybe some of that gel that another poster mentioned. Once that's settled, I can then try to work out the issues I have from that humiliating experience.

I guess shopping for a doctor won't be that easy. And all the fees I'll have to pay in the process of finding the right one. Especially since they won't tell me what I'm wanting to hear, over the phone, "Why yes, ma'am, you can get a sedative before the exam if you wish! Dentists do it all the time and so do we." Guess I'm dreaming.
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:53 PM
 
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I'm sorry, but I think Jasper12 is right. I'm sure most of us have had pelvic exams almost every year of our adult lives. I've had doctors I was more comfortable with than others, and if you have underlying issues I understand it's difficult. But your reaction is out of proportion. I think you need to see both a gynecologist (could you ask people you know for recommendations?) and some kind of counselor to deal with whatever is bothering you.

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Old 08-18-2011, 09:05 PM
 
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But can anyone tell me why it's easier to get sedated at a dentist's office (which we go to 2x a year) and which is much simpler and not as scary? But the pelvic exam, it's supposed to be grin and bear it? Ok, maybe not grin.

Come to think of it, I CAN call up dentists' offices all over the place and ask if they offer sedation, they would give a resounding "Yes", but if I try to call about these women's health specialists, they're afraid of lawsuits and stuff and deny me because I'm not already their patient? Inconsistent. :?
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Old 08-18-2011, 09:12 PM
 
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Has anyone tried alcohol beforehand? (obviously with a ride!) ...in case I can't score first.
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