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Anthing that doesn't flow naturally sounds forced even strangers who have no idea who I am start calling me by my first name ex: "sugah, what brings you here today" or" Mrs Ray please sit here" But I really don't think it's important, they are just trying to be nice or polite. I just know it's not natural.
I had an Art teacher who used to call us "young ladies" and it kind of bothers us. He wasn't that old(maybe 10 years older) so maybe that's why we found it annoying. I don't think this teacher ever call me by my name and he spoke to us individually very often while we worked in our masterpieces. Maybe our work was so ugly he just wanted to forget our existence.
I went to a new doctor today and three people there, including the doctor addressed me in the very patronizing and condescending way of either Dearie, Sweetheart (doctor used that word) or Honey. It's not like I'm a fragile little granny. I'm 5'10" and weigh more than I should.
It was a podiatrist office and they probably see mostly "senior citizens" and I heard them address others that way- both male and female.
My husband just told me he gets called those names himself which surprised me as I thought it was mostly to women. He says he thinks people who call seniors that think they are being friendly and personal but every person I've ever talked to about this say they detest it as well.
I remember my own mother being called those names in retail establishes and she wasn't even a senior citizen. maybe I get my disdain from her. In any event it is so disrespectful and I think the doctor heard me say "Oh God don't call me that!" as he was leaving the exam room. I don't know but he sure didn't address me like that during the rest of the visit.
Why not? women call me that all the time..but they sure wouldn't like it if I called them honey, babe, or chick. It's kind of annoying.
This. Many teachers do this too, on days when we're tired and the names of the kids aren't coming fast enough. It's easier to call someone, "Hon," than call them John when they're really Steve and John is their brother you taught 2 years ago. In a doctor's office where they're changing patients every 20 minutes, it would be even harder to keep straight.
And I wonder if it's just a regional difference. I'm called those things all the time.
WTH is wrong with Ma'am, or Sir? Unless, of course, one can't tell if its a him or her....then, well, just ignore them, I guess...
This. Many teachers do this too, on days when we're tired and the names of the kids aren't coming fast enough. It's easier to call someone, "Hon," than call them John when they're really Steve and John is their brother you taught 2 years ago. In a doctor's office where they're changing patients every 20 minutes, it would be even harder to keep straight.
And I wonder if it's just a regional difference. I'm called those things all the time.
I do the same! If the doctor calls me by my first name, I figure we're on a first name basis!
I also respond in kind with office staff. Ok, dear, fill out these forms.....fine, thanks, oh, sweetheart, do you have a pen?
I find the whole sweetie pie routine to be demeaning, when its already a power setup. You're NOT in the doctor's office because you want to be there, but because you need to be there. Typically you don't have muich control over the situation. If you sit for 2+ hours in an overcrowded, uncomfortable waiting room, well, you really don't have many options if you're truly sick, and if you weren't sick, you wouldn't be waiting 2+ hours! It doesn't really matter much if doctor office staff are polite or downright rude, you're not going to pick up and leave. Respond back and they will just "forget" you, leave you there until the office closes, and tell the doctor you're a no-show! They couldn't get away with that attitude in any other business setting, like, a store, restaurant, etc. Usually doctor offices get the bottom of the barrel for staff, and pay accordingly, ..........I decided to just quit going to doctors! Just don't get sick! There, sound like a plan
I refer to ALL my doctors as "Doc." That's what they are to me when I see them professonally, or run into them in the supermarket, or when they come in as one of -my- customers at my place of business. In my head, that is their name. As long as they don't call me Sweetie, I'm okay with them calling me by name, by formal name, by some polite term of endearment. Sweetie just grates on my nerves.
We always called our combat medic "doc". If he was saving my life, I'd call him all sorts of endearing names.
Really, why are people so sensitive these days. It doesn't amount to the "n" word. I do show respect to my physicians though and when in hospital, I try to have a good relationship with the nursing staff although with some it isn't possible so you have to elevate the language to get attention.
My doctor called me by my first name, so I called him by his first name! What, exactly, is wrong with that, Anon?
And when the receptionists call me 'hon' I return the compliment.
No offence intended, so none taken.
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It doesn't really matter much if doctor office staff are polite or downright rude, you're not going to pick up and leave. Respond back and they will just "forget" you, leave you there until the office closes, and tell the doctor you're a no-show! They couldn't get away with that attitude in any other business setting, like, a store, restaurant, etc. Usually doctor offices get the bottom of the barrel for staff, and pay accordingly, ..........I decided to just quit going to doctors! Just don't get sick! There, sound like a plan
