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Old 12-12-2007, 12:31 PM
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I developed a fear of heights as I got older. About the only personal fear I have. I do have much concern over what is happening globally and in particular, concerns about our country, terrorism, immigration, etc. But on a daily basis, very little. Might be just a person's temperament. I have some family members who are very fearful, but we had same experiences, etc. so not sure why other than an individual's predisposition to anxiety. Having normal fear of self preservation not the same as morbid fears, that might require some extra help, i.e. counseling.
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Old 12-12-2007, 01:20 PM
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Fear is a magnet. When I am in fear, I literally draw to me that which I fear. This is not a belief, it is a universal law just like gravity, it works and is in operation whether a person believes it or not. Fear does not keep a person safe, it does just the opposite, it literally creates and draws to a person that which they fear.

A person is either in fear or in love. All the time. PERIOD. Those are the two choices. Also fear leaves a person very vulnerable, weakened, and open to chaos moving in, whether it is from people, places, situations, or institutions. Conversely, when a person stays in a state of love, it is a very strong, calm, place, from which one can see clearly and choose wisely.

So in the past I was in fear about things I thought would ruin my life, i.e. my husband leaving, my kids getting hurt, no money and living on the street. How do I overcome those fears? Primarily the desire to stay out of fear so I don't draw those conditions to me. And part of me knowing that I can't keep any of those things from happening anyway and trust that no matter what happens I am going to be OK no matter what...and if I am not...well than that's OK too. Plus physically it feels a whole lot better to bask in love, just warm and delightful. The physical feeling for me of fear is very uncomfortable, constricting, eyes widen, terrifying, chest tightens, hard to breathe. So it feels better to not be in fear and is healthier for me too.

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Old 12-12-2007, 02:22 PM
Location: Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
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So people in africa who are straving, should not fear death and somehow food will appear before them?
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Old 12-12-2007, 11:23 PM
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Default Wow! Glad to see the thread took off

Glad to see it going.
My account (WannaBNorCal) got tangled, admins are trying to fix it.
In the meantime, what do you all think about fear of success and failure?

I fear success due to the demand others as well as myself put on myself - formed since I was a kid.
Fear of failure, gets me depressed, beacsue I gotta pay the bills, some things I can succeed at, and be ok, but my ultimate question is why do some people fear success???
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Old 12-13-2007, 07:49 AM
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A few years ago, when I was going thru some fearful times, I read a book called:
The Places That Scare You; A guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times (broken link) by Pema Chodron.
I highly recommend this book to help anyone deal with their fear(s).

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Old 12-13-2007, 11:22 PM
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That book sounds great!
Thanks for posting it.
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Old 12-14-2007, 02:16 AM
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Great book NewAgeRedneck.
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