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How can I convince my 32 year old husband to take care of his health? He eats whatever he wants...fast food, binge drinks on the weekend and smoking heavily. When I mention that he cut back and eat and drink more reasonable portions he criticizes me for my overeating and says he doesn't care if he lives to be 50. I am at a loss...I really don't want to see him get diabetes or any other illness as that really takes a toll on your body.
I am not asking him to become a health nut, but just to cut back a bit on these things gradually.
When I prepare healthy meals he asks me to go buy donuts or cookies or something. I wish he could realize that his health is a priority and that it hurts me when he says he doesn't care if he lives past 50.
Do you think his weekend binge drinking qualifies him as a having a drinking problem? He doesn't drink anything Sunday thru Wednesday, but Thursday thru Saturday he will have 6-10 beers per night on those nights. Sometimes it is mixed drink but normally beer. He rarely ever drinks any hard alcohol straight up, but a gallon of margarita and half a bottle of wine seems like a lot to me. He doesn't drink heavily socially, so it is more of a problem at home. It is really a problem for me because his behavior is irritating after he has had a few and then he falls asleep early. It makes the weekends no fun. I was just hoping on some advice on how to help him make changes. I feel like I am a nagging wife and I am getting nowhere.
Take him to a VA hospital - talk to the patients. Maybe volunteer. Veterans are big users of alcohol and tobacco - have all sorts of medical problems in later life due to this.
You cannot change him until he is ready to change. Useless to nag, you will just get divorced. Make sure his life insurance is up to date and that you know your financial picture.
The only way anyone ever got another person to do something was to hold a gun to their head!
Mmmm, tell him you will stop nagging for one week if he pulls back for one week....
if he has 3 donuts say...1
5 beers ....say 2 only
Gallon of Margarita's on Sat...a quart...
And so on ....just for a week....the next week he can do whatever and that week you won't nag the whole time.
I dunno, grabbing at straws....my thought is he loves you, does want to please you....but can't...so a little compromise bec it is only one week after all...and he is getting really 2 weeks of no nagging!
He might see that he feels better pulling back some...I dunno?
Bec really I wanted to say...'You can do nothing."
Mmmm...if he won't ...pack your weekends with activities out of the house , with your friends or alone....movies, lunches, shopping, museum...sit at the library and read, even....just don't be there....could that wake him up, I dunno.
Let him know how awful it is, you can't be around it anymore.
He might think he is actually losing you...with no ultimatums or threats.
Grabbing at straws.
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