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Old 10-23-2016, 09:51 AM
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He is endangering your life by asking you to take him into Trenton to get drugs. That is a dangerous town, especially the areas you have to go to get what he wants.
I agree with the others, he is incapable of caring for you as you do for him.

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We've had moderate success with them.

Good luck and protect yourself!
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Old 10-23-2016, 10:10 AM
Location: Port Charlotte FL
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drop him like a hot potato or you're gonna find yourself in a world of hurt..ain't no future with that guy..you owe yourself better..
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Old 10-23-2016, 10:36 AM
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He is using you to help him get drugs. He has no interest in rehab at this point in his life. You can't fix this for him - the best you can do is refuse to be dragged down with him. The good news (for you) is that you aren't married to him and don't have children with him. You can make a clean break now, and you should.
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Old 10-23-2016, 01:26 PM
Location: Chicago area
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Dear one. You need to take a hard look at why you are attracted to a train wreck. What need does this fulfill? Are you trying to save him? If so, don't waste your time. You can't. You will save yourself a lot of heartache if you walk away and leave the dysfunction behind. Do yourself a favor and leave him to his own devices. You can't change him, you can't help him, and you can't make him quit. You can only change the way you deal with him.

Focus on cultivating relationships that are healthy and don't involve chemically dependent people. They're a nightmare. Been there. done that, never again for me.
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Old 10-23-2016, 01:39 PM
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You can.t fix him or love him clean.
His disease is stronger than u can imagine. He is sucking you in with the car rides and all.
Please please get away from him. It may suck you in too if you continue with him.
Change your number, don.t answer the door, no loaning money. Stop all contact immediately.
He'll balk and cry and moan and get angry so be prepared but be strong and stick with clean family and friends.
I hear they take the car away during a drug bust and it goes on a permanent record. He ain't worth all that, is he?
Take care of yourself only. The right guy will come in time.
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Old 10-23-2016, 02:39 PM
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Check out www.soberrecovery.com for a good education about addiction. Many forums there, much information. Much 'support' too (try the Friends and Family area) ... they can be very understanding since they have all been through something like this themselves. They also can be quite straightforward there .. helps to shock you into reality (and I am pretty sure they will have similar advice to many here, especially because this is not a long term relationship yet - detach right away, go no contact, get out NOW!) - but they will listen, I guarantee that.

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Old 10-23-2016, 02:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Sharon84 View Post
I dont know what to do.. I really lov him and i know he is a good person. I dont know if he can stop or change.
No, he isn't a good person. Maybe someday he could be, but right now is not trustworthy or good. You've been together 6 months and it will only get worse from here as long as he has his problem. Leave him and move on to people who actually deserve you and treat you with respect, not with lies. Demand better for yourself. You may love him but he loves his drugs more than he loves you and you can do better even being alone than being with him. Leave now!
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Old 10-23-2016, 02:53 PM
Location: Saint John, IN
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Change your phone number, don't answer the door. You need to walk away and not look back! Not your responsibility to change him, fix him or even help him! He has to want to help himself. Everything he's telling you is a lie. There are plenty of guys out there, don't settle for a lying drug addicts, you're better than that! If you stay, you will end up hurt or in jail. That's the reality, sorry!
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Old 10-23-2016, 04:41 PM
Location: Leaving fabulous Las Vegas, Nevada
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I agree with everything everyone has said so far. You should leave now. He's lied to you; he's gotten you to do things that you know are unhealthy and wrong. Before too long, he will be talking you into getting high with him, then your life will be different forever.

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Old 10-23-2016, 04:47 PM
Location: tampa bay
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The same reason that kept the Op with him after so many lies...is what will keep her with him...low self esteem...we could tell her a 1000 times to leave...but highly unlikely she will...
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