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Old 10-23-2016, 05:10 AM
 
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My boyfriend and i started dating about 6 months ago. When we first started dating he told me he used to have a drug problem. He told me he was in and out of rehab for cocaine. I found out that he lied to me and was a >>>>>>e addict for many years. A month after we started dating he told me he took pain killers now and than to feel good. I found out that the pain killers he was taking were roxy.. He started using them everyday and lying to me about it. He hasnt done >>>>>>e in a year supposedly. His parents caught on that he was doing roxy and they threatened to kick him out. He told me he was going to stop using them. Than a couple weeks later i caught him sniffing something else. He told me it was zanax. I dont believe him. His eyes are always glassy his pupils are small and he is always itchy. Now he been using the excuse to ask me to take him to get weed. He been asking me to take him to trenton nj.. If noone knows what that is its a bad area with all crack addicts. I didnt believe him that thats what he was getting so yesterday when we got back i looked through his phone and his friend texted him i can get the good ******************** 13 for 80 dollars.. I have no idea what that could be. I wanted to know if anyone might know. Everytime we left trenton he would take a bottleof waterandrun into the bathroom. Than i found the cap of a pepsi bottle in a duffle bag placed between two pairs of clothes. I dont know what to do.. I really lov him and i know he is a good person. I dont know if he can stop or change. I cant trust him to even go out wit his friends. They are all drug addicts .. I feel like i should walk but its soooo hard. Please anyone whomight havesome answers please writeback!
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Old 10-23-2016, 05:36 AM
 
Location: Planet Earth, USA
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I have experience with drug addiction behavior.

One of two things are going to happen.

1. He's going to get busted with a controlled substance and get arrested.

2. YOU could possibly be robbed, hurt or get arrested for possession of a controlled substance. Either in your car, in your purse or just hanging out with him.

He is not in a right frame of mind. He's on drugs and they control him no matter what you do or say.

The best option for YOU is to distance yourself and not get involved anymore. You are only enabling him and you can't stop or save him no matter how much love and support you show him.

YOU are possibly going to get hurt or in trouble. Stay away.
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Old 10-23-2016, 05:39 AM
 
Location: Planet Earth, USA
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P.S please do NOT get pregnant by this guy either. That baby will grow up with possible birth defects and no father. It is not fair to the child.
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Old 10-23-2016, 05:55 AM
 
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Originally Posted by behindthescreen View Post
I have experience with drug addiction behavior.

One of two things are going to happen.

1. He's going to get busted with a controlled substance and get arrested.

2. YOU could possibly be robbed, hurt or get arrested for possession of a controlled substance. Either in your car, in your purse or just hanging out with him.

He is not in a right frame of mind. He's on drugs and they control him no matter what you do or say.

The best option for YOU is to distance yourself and not get involved anymore. You are only enabling him and you can't stop or save him no matter how much love and support you show him.

YOU are possibly going to get hurt or in trouble. Stay away.
This is the truth.

You may already be on a list with law enforcement if your car is the one showing up at these places. If anything is in your car, the charges are put on you.

This is serious. I'd delete him from my life....Change your number, do not call or contact him, do not take calls from his friends, completely get away from this situation.

You may need to look into NA in your area for a support group of loved ones of addicts. They will help you recognize how he has manipulated you and is using you.

I know it is hard, but you have to save yourself.

Last edited by JanND; 10-23-2016 at 06:03 AM..
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Old 10-23-2016, 05:57 AM
 
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As cold as this sounds, let him go.

He wants drugs more than he wants anything and until HE decides that he no longer wants drugs, he will continue to use them despite anything you say or do.

He's not a good person, he's an addict who would sell his soul, and yours, for a fix. Get out while you can.
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Old 10-23-2016, 06:06 AM
 
Location: Brackenwood
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I'm not even going to read your post. I only need to read the thread topic and the first sentence of your post to advise that it's time to bail. Drug problem, been dating 6 months... that's not long enough to be committed to this mess. It's time to divest and move on before you get sucked into a black hole of pain and misery.
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Old 10-23-2016, 08:23 AM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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His first priority is his next high. You are only #1, when he is high. As soon as he starts to come down, you disappear from his mind and heart.
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Old 10-23-2016, 08:28 AM
 
Location: Central IL
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You've only known him 6 months. It is not your job or your duty to FIX him. It's your responsibility to decide if you want a relationship with him...and that is an easy answer in this case - NO. Run in the opposite direction. It is HIS job to fix himself...you are in no way responsible for him - you have no obligation whatsoever so get it through your head - he is a drowning person who will grab onto anything he can and drag them (you!) down with him.
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Old 10-23-2016, 09:07 AM
 
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Get out...now. It sounds like you are young, sooner or later you are going to have to leave him, better it be now than after he destroys you.
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Old 10-23-2016, 09:21 AM
 
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Its not going to get better. The longer you stay the worse it will be. Good luck.
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