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Diet and lifestyle are probably major. But one true test is whether a dude can self-pleasure without said problems. If such is relatively easy, then all the plumbing is OK and it can relate to the mind (different partners, performance anxiety, etc.).....
My personal opinion is that nature really didn't care what we could do after 50 - but our culture is so highly sexualized that many think sex is "natural" to whatever age the article they read told them.
I'd say it's not. Whether "the end" comes at 50 or at 70 or at 80 may be a combo of lifestyle, luck of the draw and other factors.
I think all men and women should stop measuring themselves (pun intended) by such things after a certain age...unless that happens to be their major goal in life or one of their top 3 methods of recreation and entertainment.
One needs to consider the very basics - sex is for reproduction. The "fun" factor was just there so you WOULD reproduce.....
Separated two years, with multiple partners for 2.5 years.
Have you resolved with your wife whatever issues caused your marriage to be sexless? Have you gotten closure on that?
If you're fine on subsequent attempts, you may have some residual emotional issues stemming from the problems with sex you're carrying into these new interactions.
Of course you shouldn't cut out the foreplay . Every partner will be different, and you may need more of a connection than you have.
Lol. I was rounding the first time. Separated in April of 2017. First sexual encounter after in June of 2017.
Separated two years, with multiple partners for 2.5 years.
Have you resolved with your wife whatever issues caused your marriage to be sexless? Have you gotten closure on that?
If you're fine on subsequent attempts, you may have some residual emotional issues stemming from the problems with sex you're carrying into these new interactions.
Of course you shouldn't cut out the foreplay . Every partner will be different, and you may need more of a connection than you have.
The marriage became sexless because she is a childhood sexual abuse survivor and she came to the conclusion that she didn't want to have sex anymore because of how it made her feel.
Inability to obtain an erection or to sustain an erection sufficient for intercourse is erectile dysfunction (= ED).
It may be a sign of other underlying pathology (e.g., heart disease), but it may not as well. Smoking can lead to ED. Some cases of ED are psychogenic. The incidence of ED increases as men age.
The class of medications that treat ED are called PDE inhibitors -- phosphodiesterase 5 inhibitors.
They are known by the brand names of Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis. There are some important differences between these three medications (e.g., Viagra only provides a 4-hour window for this type of activity; Cialis has a much longer window for activity). And yes, all medications have side effects.
Bottom line: go see your primary care provider and discuss your situation with him. He will review your health and medical history and advise you accordingly.
From what I understand, if a man in his 50's tells his primary care doc that ~sometimes~ (I mean really, what percentage of the time?) his erection will lapse during foreplay and be difficult to regain, and he is over 50 years old... Unless that doctor is seriously pill-happy he's not going to see this as an emergency worth prescribing drugs over. With the side effects that are possible, and the interactions with other medication you may need... I feel like if you've had one or two incidents with some struggle but mostly your junk works fine, then drugs should not be your go-to here.
There are a wide variety of things that can have this kind of effect. Overall fitness (diet, exercise, blood pressure, heart health, stress, testosterone levels, adequate sleep, etc) habituaton to porn/masturbation, simply getting a wee bit over the hill, psychology, and the list goes on. The psychology one is somewhat significant given you were with a woman who has very negative connotations attached to sex, but since your function is not severely impaired, from what you've said, I don't think that this is necessarily to blame. Should you see your doctor? Yes. But not necessarily with an eye to getting this resolved so that it will never, ever happen again. More because especially as we get a bit older, people should be seeing a doctor now and again, like at least once a year, and you in particular need to make sure that you're not having any issues with the ol' prostate. That's really important.
Otherwise? I really think that a now and then sort of unwanted loss of erection should not be seen as the end of the world. I think that guys can get absurdly self-conscious about this, and as they age, they really cannot afford to be like that. It's not an embarrassment, it's just a basic fact that you are not 25 years old anymore. Any woman who gives you any crap about it, obviously does not have the right mindset to be dating a gentleman of distinguished years. Which, I might add, I find VERY rewarding personally, and would not trade for a rock hard 25 year old in a million years. So. Be with someone who appreciates you, keep up the intimacy, and don't stress about this. It happens. It's not the end of the world, OR the beginning of the end of your sex life, unless you let it be.
Your in your 50s now and things don't always work like they did 20 years ago. Bottom line, go see your doctor and tell him you would like a prescription for some meds. There will be no argument and he may even give you some samples to see what works best for you. The young guys around here use the pills when they don't even need them to help them perform. Go figure.
It’s ironic that many posts to the OP are thinking it’s some sort of medical condition or physical issue causing this problem, however it has all the makings of Performance Anxiety based on his present and past situation.
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. Every partner will be different, and you may need more of a connection than you have.
