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Old 06-21-2020, 10:53 PM
 
Location: Harrisburg, PA
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Hi all,

ANY answer / opinion appreciated. Mods I assume infertility questions are allowed under Health and Wellness.

My wife and I have been trying to have a baby for almost 3 years now. It was on and off during this time, sometimes we would stop after I lost my job, etc., and my wife has never worked. Probably tried a little less than 200x or so. My wife takes Folic Acid and a Thyroid medication daily.

I am going to be 27M, and she is 25F. I thought it'd be easy to have a baby, I mean that's what grade school taught me. Both sets of our parents had kids. Her father has some genetic issues but did father two kids.

My question is: based on these facts is this a strong indication of infertility or sterility? My wife has PCOS (poly cystic ovarian sydrome) which makes it more difficult to conceive (she's had ultrasound done to see cysts with okayish results) and I've never been tested. Neither of us has health insurance right now, so how much would it cost for me to get tested? I have the stuff to do the test. I'm starting to get worried is all...

Please no jokes or inappropriate comments, it is a sensitive topic and I wasn't even sure I wanted to post this. It is embarrassing to have to ask but I'd appreciate any feedback. Thanks.

Edit: if anyone is willing to share what they feel is a reasonable course of action or how they would feel about this issue, that would be appreciated too!

Last edited by g500; 06-21-2020 at 11:04 PM..
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Old 06-22-2020, 02:24 AM
 
Location: Georgia, USA
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After three years a consultation with a reproductive endocrinologist is indicated. Although your test will be inexpensive as far as lab costs are concerned, you should consider the costs of pregnancy care and delivery if neither of you have insurance. I would suggest getting insurance first if at all possible.
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Old 06-22-2020, 08:14 AM
 
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After three years, it's time to look into it. The first and easiest thing to do is test you. I don't know about the cost, but it will be cheaper and more conclusive than any tests your wife has.

Assuming you're OK, the most likely reason you have not conceived is that your wife is not ovulating regularly. This is common with PCOS. Does she have periods every month? Once in a while? Hardly at all? There should be clear and changing indications throughout a month/cycle that ovulation is or is not happening. You can google these, get a book, or ask a doctor.

If it seems that she IS ovulating regularly, then a complete workup may be necessary to pinpoint what is going on. If NOT, then the PCOS is probably the issue. Many women with PCOS are able to get pregnant with a mild fertility drug such as Clomid. Losing weight (if indicated), changing one's diet, and exercising regularly can sometimes improve PCOS as well; that's something else to look into.

Good luck!
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Old 06-22-2020, 11:38 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I agree that it's time to seek medical intervention. Do you have a plan to get health insurance?

Pregnant women and babies have to see the doctor A LOT.
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Old 06-22-2020, 12:41 PM
 
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PSOD is relatively easy to control with metformin (very inexpensive diabetic med-like 0-10.00 co-pay) and diet.


We personally know about 20, or so, couples who conceived after the wife being treated by a endocrinologist that specialized in infertility
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Old 06-22-2020, 12:57 PM
 
Location: on the wind
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OP you might get replies to this question if you ask on the Parenting/Pregnancy subforum too.
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Old Yesterday, 04:25 PM
 
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Default Infertility 101: The Basics From a Fertility Doctor

Infertility 101: The Basics From a Fertility Doctor

https://www.bloodandmilk.com/infertility-101/


FYI


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Definition of infertility

Infertility is defined as the inability to conceive after 12 months of unprotected, appropriately timed intercourse
Infertility Statistics

  • 1 in 8 couples has infertility
  • 1 in 4 women will suffer from a miscarriage
  • 5-10% of women have a diagnosis of polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS)
  • Up to 40% of women with endometriosis will suffer from infertility
  • 1/3 of infertility issues are related to male factor (men are impacted by infertility as well as women)
When should you see a doctor for infertility?


  • Women under the age of 35 who have been trying to conceive for 12 months or longer
  • Women over the age of 35 who have been trying for 6 months or longer to conceive
  • If you have known medical issues that could impact your fertility such as PCOS, endometriosis, known male factor disorder, known uterine abnormalities or blocked fallopian tubes
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Old Yesterday, 04:31 PM
 
Location: Sierra Nevadas (California)
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See a specialist, the PCOS can be treated, while she is still young. Maybe see if there is a low cost clinic that can at least get you started. Good luck.
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Old Yesterday, 05:11 PM
 
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I'm coming back to add that my husband and I struggled with the same issue. It took a few years to get everything straightened out, but I had my first baby at age 30 and two more after that. Whatever you do, don't despair.
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Old Today, 05:34 PM
 
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The really good news is that you guys are very young and most things can be fixed! And what can’t be fixed can most likely be resolved if you make sure you’re as healthy as possible otherwise. I agree to start with the simplest and least expensive testing/treatments first. A clean diet, exercise, stress reduction techniques and a strong support network cannot be discounted when trying to conceive and carry to term. Continue to enjoy life and each other outside of your efforts to conceive. Not even your as yet unborn children should be allowed to take away your joy.

No matter what, fight the urge to sink into despair (as saibot states) and doubt your value. Life has purpose and meaning whether we procreate or not. Childbearing can be a joyful part of living, but it truly is over in the blink of an eye and then you’re on to the next phase of life.

My brother (49) and his wife (44) just had their first baby (naturally conceived) 10 days ago. They had the attitude that whether or not “it” happened, they were going to enjoy their life and marriage.


I understand the embarrassment, but really there is no need to be. Infertillity treatments and services are a 30+ billion dollar industry. You are NOT alone!
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