Spouse threatens divorce if THC use continues (blood tests, heart rate, symptoms)
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I am the OP's wife. I fell in love with him 46 years ago because he was smart and witty and funny and verbal. He could talk about anything....books, sports, music, he knew it all or pretended he knew it all. When he started using marijuana tincture and edibles 7 years ago, he changed. He doesn't talk as much now and he forgets things all the time. His reactions are slower and when he is driving, he forgets where we are going. Most of the people in our neighborhood didn't know him before he starting using, they think he's a nice guy who is forgetful and sometimes mumbles. My family and his former co-workers all see a dramatic change, his co-workers look at me with questioning concern. He sees his primary physician about once a month, and has been to a thyroid specialist where they diagnosed him with borderline hyperthyroidism and prescribed medication.
He has complained about being cold and dizzy for at least 2 years. Finally, I said, "you always say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, but expecting different results. Why don't you try giving up marijuana for awhile." So he stopped using for 5 days, and on the 4th and 5th days he was no longer cold or dizzy. But then, for some reason, he decided to start using again. And that's when I said, "I'm done with this. I want my husband back and I know he is in there, but you are holding him hostage. Only you can fix this." If he had dementia, I would adapt to that, but his choices are making us both miserable.
Thank you, OP's wife for the clarification. As I said in my first reply, people who are using, even small amounts, don't realize or see how it affects them. They think they're fine, but they're not.
My answer is based on the "assumption" this is all a true scenario.
OP, you have to stop! That simple. Your initial post did not provide the detail like the above from the "OP's wife."
Good luck!
Thanks for the response! FWIW, I have stopped all marijuana use. My spouse is very thoughtful and articulate and wrote a great response, adding a lot of detail to the story. I appreciate her more every day!
Thank you, OP's wife for the clarification. As I said in my first reply, people who are using, even small amounts, don't realize or see how it affects them. They think they're fine, but they're not.
I knew something was wrong, but her pointing out in great detail what was going on was very cool. We've been together a very long time and she has always supported me. To sum up, I love her very much, my use has affected our relationship and it will take some time to repair that. I welcome the work it will take to repair our relationship.
Thank you, OP's wife for the clarification. As I said in my first reply, people who are using, even small amounts, don't realize or see how it affects them. They think they're fine, but they're not.
I assume I'm the addict you're talking about. Marijuana is habituating, not addicting. If it was addictive, I would be going through withdrawals and I'm not. What makes you think I'm an addict and a liar?
I assume I'm the addict you're talking about. Marijuana is habituating, not addicting. If it was addictive, I would be going through withdrawals and I'm not. What makes you think I'm an addict and a liar?
Unless you are all addicts (or just most of them), it doesn't refer to you. It would, however, give you a very busy schedule.
Though...you said you have been taking lorazepam for a long time. Benzos are fiendishly addictive, as we all know.
I will say that you sound very much like my spouse, who is not an addict. Flowery compliments, enthusiastic professions of love and promises to do better, all of which is to mollify and distract me from the fact that he will quietly continue the destructive behavior behind my back.
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I assume I'm the addict you're talking about. Marijuana is habituating, not addicting. If it was addictive, I would be going through withdrawals and I'm not. What makes you think I'm an addict and a liar?
Addictive behavior isn't always physical but involves the brain. You being in AA means you have a propensity for addictive behavior. For now, you may just have a marijuana use disorder but due to your past addiction it can become addictive. I do commend you for listening to your wife and doing something about it. Stories from others about how it doesn't do this or that to them are useless because it is what does it do to you.
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