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So very sorry for the loss of your husband. Seems he left you in a financial and emotional mess.
It reads like you can not afford to maintain the house (taxes and utilities) on your limited income.
The house can not have many "good" memories for you, given that it is now such a "commodity" for your various family members.
i agree with others, kick your abusive, ungrateful son and his wife out. Tell your sister to jump in a lake. Tell your In-Laws to pound sand.
Sell the house, take the proceeds, your Hubbies' SS and his good memories and start a new life for yourself.
WE had a similar situation, but w/a car that was a family heirloom. It belonged to my husbands dad and when he was alive, he told my husband that if anything ever happened to him, that he would inherit the car. Well, it was never in writing, so we had a fight on our hands! So, we wrote up a contract that said everyone was a legal owner of the car IF...they paid insurance and helped pay for upkeep. Needless to say, NO ONE signed it. Everyone wanted US to maintain the car, but they wanted to drive it and borrow it w/no strings attached. We were lucky that it worked out this way because it wasn't in writing before his dad passed away. If your husband left the house to YOU, then I would kick everyone else out and live there. With the market the way it is, it might be hard to find something else that you can afford w/your SS. And maybe in a few yrs, the market will be better and you can sell for a better price. Good luck!
Thank you all for your advice!!! I am worried that someone will actually be able to take the house away from me. My husband made out his will on his death bed, his brother wrote his wishes down and he signed it, but here's the thing hubby had liver and brain cancer, hours later his liver failed then one by one his organs shut down and he was gone a couple of days later. The house is in both of our names.
I'm sorry for what you have to go through. Since the house is yours, you can do whatever you want with it. My advice is, if possible, sell it asap and deposit the proceeds in a bank account under your name only. Then move far way from your family and anyone who thinks they have a claim to your house. And when you make a will for yourself, make sure none of your family members gets a dime. From what you're saying, none of them are deserving of it.
Thank you all for your advice!!! I am worried that someone will actually be able to take the house away from me. My husband made out his will on his death bed, his brother wrote his wishes down and he signed it, but here's the thing hubby had liver and brain cancer, hours later his liver failed then one by one his organs shut down and he was gone a couple of days later. The house is in both of our names.
If your name was on the house deed at the time of your husbands death, I believe it is now yours and only yours. However, I'm not an attorney. Call Legal Aid. At the very least they can put your mind at ease on what is yours and what your rights are. You really really need someone to guide you right now. Forgive me for saying it but it sounds like you are surrounded by vultures all out for themselves with no concern for you. Please don't sign ANYTHING your family puts in front of you and please get legal advise immediately!
this belongs in personal finance or relationships where you might get more feedback. But i agree with what others have said. Kick them out and sell the house and keep every penny. Sorry for your loss and equally sorry that you have such boorish family. Best of luck!
Thank you all for your advice!!! I am worried that someone will actually be able to take the house away from me. My husband made out his will on his death bed, his brother wrote his wishes down and he signed it, but here's the thing hubby had liver and brain cancer, hours later his liver failed then one by one his organs shut down and he was gone a couple of days later. The house is in both of our names.
If he put something in that will that goes against your wishes, it won't hold up in court if it was done while he was on his deathbed.. That should have been taken care of years earlier..!!
Get a good attorney to help you. I would give my son an 30 day eviction notice and kick them out. You have to do a legal eviction, you can't just tell them to leave. GET AN ATTORNEY..!
I'll vote along with the get an attorney - but - what you are describing is elder abuse. It is illegal and can involve free housing in the lockup for those who push it. You need an advocate as much as you do a lawyer. Inquire of social services and start to form a paper trail of the demands on you, giving dates, times, names, etc..
As for your son, and your not wanting a house to get between you and him, wake up and smell the coffee, he has already indicated your value in relation to the house and him. You have lost him already, and the only chance you might have of getting him to turn-around is some sort of therapy (like a brick up-side the head until he sees the light).
It is YOUR life. Do NOT under any circumstances sign ANYTHING except if you are ALONE with your attorney and an advocate by your side, and they have time to advise you and answer your questions.
(If you need a brick, let me know, I'll send you one.)
I doubt it, the house is not finished. My husband started building it a year before he died. One of my neighbors is a tax accessor for the county and he told me that the reason everyone wants my house is because of it's value. He said that if I sold it today as is I could easily get 150k and if I finished the house it would be worth 250k, I had no idea till he told me. It is a big (3156 sq. ft.) two story house with a 2 car attached garage, it's a beautiful house sitting on an acre and a half in the middle of the woods (closest neighbor is a half a mile away) and it has tall ceilings, also some of the doorways are arched. I can't get homeowner's insurance until the house is completely finished.
Honestly, I would hire myself an attorney. You do not, to me, seem to be very business savey. If the home was deeded JTWS, then it is yours. I wouldn't attempt to throw anyone out until you have sat down with an attorney.
The residency laws are different in every state, here in Florida, if someone has lived in the residence for 6 months or longer, you cannot just toss them out on the street.
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