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I'm pretty good with mechanical things and household type repairs, and I work in a place where I offer advice to people all day long on how to do things on their boats. I learned a long time ago that the myth that all men are good with tools is just that, a myth. I will be explaining the most basic task to a customer and I see this glazed look in their eyes and realize they are not getting it at all.
But we are not all good at the same things. When someone starts talking about electronics or things like smart phones, apps, etc, I get that same glazed look in my eyes.
Lock up his bottle of little blue pills, hide the key, and tell him he can't have any until he gets the project done. He'll be on his knees begging you for projects to do.
Lock up his bottle of little blue pills, hide the key, and tell him he can't have any until he gets the project done. He'll be on his knees begging you for projects to do.
Well that's contrary to your tag line "thinking outside the box"- You're gonna make him think about "inside the box" then!
If it's basic stuff around the house and DH doesn't want to tackle it, you can. Just use Youtube and Google.
If it's beyond basic, and your DH doesn't want to tackle it, don't force or coerce him to try. If you're lucky, his fix will simply be an eyesore, but more often than not someone who doesn't know how to use a tool or know what they're doing can really hurt themselves and others. So just call a professional...less headaches/heartaches later.
So start doing DIY stuff yourself. If there's a hint of interest on his part, he'll join in. If not, then there's nothing you can do. No one is born handy, and not everyone wants to be *shrugs*
If your husband wrote in here and asked, "How can I get my wife to cook more?' I'd tell him he was a sexist and ask what's wrong with him that he can't get into the kitchen and learn some skills himself.
i have duct tape and a hammer. thats all i need. if it moves and it isn't supposed to i use duct tape. if it is supposed to move and isn't i use the hammer.
You're lucky. My stepdaughter will always have to call her father and I as her husband has no interest in learning anything new. We don't mind but I feel bad for her when we are gone.
I know. One day my dad will be physically unable to do it and then he won't be here. My husband and I both have/had fathers who are mechanically inclined (mechanics, actually, ha) and we are the complete opposite. When my dad starts to talk about cars to me, my eyes just glaze over and I have no idea what he is talking about. He has a touch of knowledge about everything and redid his entire bathroom himself. I don't like feeling helpless and stupid so I'd rather learn.
I did find a college that has continuing education classes where they teach you things like installing tile and sheetrock/plaster repair. They also have a carpentry program for a reasonable price that I would consider doing because I am insane. I actually checked out some woodworking classes because I'd be very interested in learning how to build things but they are $$ and sold out. I'm really a hands-on type of learner when it comes to these things---watching videos/people really doesn't help me. I need someone to watch me, tell me I'm doing it right and give me some reassurance. LOL.
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Honestly, it is a lost cause. If he can't do it now or didn't want to before - why force him?
I always say marry a person that is handy around the house or someone with money so you can afford to pay someone to do it.
I know. I thought it would be a quality that someone would know about someone before they got married. Like I knew that my husband wasn't good at paying attention to money/budgeting/paying bills so I do it. But I also made sure to marry someone who is open to learning new stuff.
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As a married man, I can assure you that the single most effective way to motivate your husband is to give him the one thing he craves more than anything else: positive reinforcement from you, the woman he loves.
I always do this---not out of motivation, but because I really do appreciate my husband doing things for me and the household. (And he thanks me/appreciates it too.)
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