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..., or sometimes I am upstairs and don't get there in time.
We had a neighbor like this once, I rang several times, and he wouldn't answer his door, my husband rang one day and he did - buck naked!!! (I am so glad that he never answered for me,like this!!!)
Yeah, I've been upstairs folding clothes or something when the doorbell has rung. I refuse to try to race down the hallway, scramble down the stairs, trip over the barking dog, step over the freaking out cats, just to see who is there.
People no longer answer their doors or phones unless they know someone is supposed to be there, as in expected.
It's part of living in a fear based society.
Even weirder -- there are still door to door sales people....if pretty much no one answers their doors, why bother with this outmoded way to sell? I still answer my door, and I ask the sales guy -- and they usually tell me only one or two before me.... that and everyone works....
We get them a lot. I think I stared at one not too long ago like she had 2 heads because it was dark and freezing. I felt bad for her, but I don't want to encourage them by buying something.
Maybe they were out walking, biking, running.
Maybe they were sleeping.
Maybe their bell does not work.
Maybe they were "getting busy".
Maybe they were in the bathroom.
Maybe they were unclothed.
Maybe they do not open the door for anyone they do not recognize.
I know I do not open the door for anyone I do not recognize.
Leave a note with your phone, tell them who you are, and ask them to text you when they are available.
This. I got tired of all the holy rollers trying to sell me their version of morality (as do my two Great Danes; they lunge at any solicitors), so I never answer the door unless it's Fed Ex or UPS.
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I agree 100%. In fact, to me, morally speaking, I stress MORALLY not legally, but to me, you don't have the right to ignore people at your door on purpose (I'm not referring to "in the shower" or "on the toilet" situations). Unless you live in a gang-ridden part of a large city, your fear is irrational and you're using it as an excuse to be un-neighborly and it's morally wrong.
I think in an ideal world that is true. However, I can sympathize with people who don't want to bother with proselytizers, other sales people, and potential violence. I tend to answer my door, and I make connections with my neighbors. If one of my friendly neighbors came knocking for assistance in jump starting their car, I would help unless some emergency prevented me from doing so. I would even help one of my irritating, inconsiderate neighbors as an example for them, and hope that they might be more considerate of their neighbors (including me, of course) in the future.
But, if I had a parade of people knocking on my door, you can bet I would stop answering it. And that would not be morally wrong, but a simple matter of practicality. I'm willing to help out my fellow man, within limits.
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I am absolutely serious when I say this, and yes, that goes for ignoring people calling as well. Ignoring them is something that, to me, not legally but morally speaking, you have no right to do. It is selfish, self-centered, it is an attitude that says "I only care about myself and my entire reason for living is for people to cater to me and leave me alone. If your house is on fire, call the fire department using your own phone." If you work night-shift or you and the wife are "getting it on," okay--otherwise, it's ridiculous.
Now you've completely lost me. There are many people simply trying to sell their wares, and use the phone to do so, and frankly that's not worth my time. And on a sometimes related matter, there are nefarious people in the world. If my phone rings and it is somebody I know, then I know their phone number and can see it on my caller ID. If I don't know the caller, but it is important to me, they will leave a message. Sales people and scam artists rarely leave messages. Which is good, because it saves my finger from pressing the delete button.
In today's age, people need to manage the intrusions into their lives. We are bombarded with communication. We have people knocking on our door, sending letters, making phone calls, sending email, sending tweets. Add in radio, tv, etc., and it's a wonder we don't all have ADHD.
It kind of reflects poorly on modern life, doesn't it? All these interruptions, it gets hard to get anything done. Why, I remember when --- oh, sorry, somebody needs my attention...
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Morally wrong? That is just nonsense. I am not self-centered and do not only care about myself. I am elderly and answering the door requires a trip down the stairs, which is both painful and sometimes dangerous. I see no good reason to go downstairs and back up just to answer the door to some stranger trying to sell me something. I can look out the window and see if it is a neighbor. Last week a tree service guy rang my bell and pounded on the door repeatedly at 7:30 AM. No way was I going to answer the door in my robe for a complete stranger.
As far as the phone goes, I use only my cell phone. I only refuse calls from those that block their numbers. I don't consider that morally wrong or self-centered either.
I just moved to a new neighborhood, and for different matters I needed to talk to 2 neighbors.
Both had 2 cars on the driveway, so probably they were at home. I rang the doorbell several times (didn't hear any doorbell sound), knocked on the doors several times, but they did not come to open their door.
Is it normal? Is it some kind of defensive mechanism that people do? They purposely ignore people wanting to talk to them, or even disconnect their doorbells to not be disturbed??
You "just moved in" and already you're banging on two neighbors' doors?
This. I got tired of all the holy rollers trying to sell me their version of morality (as do my two Great Danes; they lunge at any solicitors), so I never answer the door unless it's Fed Ex or UPS.
You're lucky that they knock on the door - here, they toss it on the porch (and if you're lucky, you happened to be home and/or heard it)
I can't believe this thread has gone on so long from a loony mad because strangers don't answer door to him, LOL - Consensus is: it is the homeowner's choice to answer the door or not.
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