Help: About divorce in TX

[testmo]

of course dont do this if your husband is likely to fly off the handle but if you have a joint bank account how much money do you have on hand for yourself? i would recommend taking some money out and keeping it somewhere safe. if your husband is the type to fly off the handle and possibly do something you need to find a safe place first THEN get some backup money. joint account = joint assets. legally the money is just as rightfully yours

dont like him take your children anywhere without you if you can swing that.

another free/nominal fee legal services besides going through United Way, Houston Area Womens Center is The Cabrini Center

2900 Louisiana Avenue
Houston, TX 77006
(713) 874-6570

i'd really encourage to contact the AAFS (Asian American Family Services). i have not worked with them before personally and i dont know all the ins and outs but i have worked with people who went through them and received a lot of support and assistance.

good luck

[zhugeliang1]

He dosn't want give me more money except the $20,000, and keep my kids with him.

The Idiot is in the United States, right? Divorce in the US is different from divorce in Asia where the guy seems to always get the kids and the woman never sees them again, especially if the kids are boys. Here in the US you are very likely to get the kids most of the time (especially if you were taking care of them while he was in school or work) and he gets visitation every other weekend. He would have to pay you child support. You may be able to get alimony but only the lawyer can advise on that. I've been there done that. Get a lawyer NOW.

[chris_ut]

Texas does not typically give alimony except in lieu of dividing community property.

[zhugeliang1]

Alimony can been given as spousal maintenance especially if the spouse did not hold a job. As always ask the lawyer.

[fieldman]

Thank you everyone, I feel stronger. I cannot withdraw any money from our joint account, he check account very often for every penny I spent. My husband told me there are two ways can keep me stay at home. First, I have to go for master degree. Then I can make money soon. But I am not qualified for it. Second, I find a girlfriend for him. What a sick jerk!

[NTT]

He is what he is and you'd need to find ways to protect yourself.

I'm assuming that you're the one that go grocery shopping, right? How do you pay for the grocery (check, debit card, etc.)? Does he ask for the receipt after you purchased the grocery? How often do you go?

[zhugeliang1]

Document everything. What you are describing is emotional abuse. Restricting your finances is emotional abuse and so is making the demand that you find him a girlfriend.

If you have a journal or appt book, make sure you make a copy of it for your lawyer because it could show that you were taking care of the children, finances, etc and it could make a difference in what alimony/child custody you end up with. I had an appt book that I kept for years and years and it showed I was doing all the work and that made a favorable outcome for me in my divorce.

You really really need a lawyer. No one here can really advise you on what outcome you can expect, but the abuse will keep going until you protect yourself with a lawyer who can stop that abuse.

[NTT]

Fieldman, are you still around? Haven't heard back from you.