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Old 04-12-2009, 10:43 PM
 
Location: Texas City
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[FONT=Verdana] My Daughter is having issues at school with her classmates, Let me start out by saying she is a strait A student and has never missed a day of school and is in all the gifted and talented classes. Her friends at school seem to always talk about Jesus; this is a subject that she really does not believe in. She has to hear her friends all day long talk about Gay people like they have a illness mind you my brother is gay, and how anyone who doesn’t believe in Jesus is going to hell. This from a girl whose father is a sex offender in which we found on Watchdog.com. My Daughter feels like if she says something that she is going to be outed and is considering Home school because of this. It is a heavy burden to bear as a 13-year-old girl. Im on here looking for Youth groups that she might find interest in being around others like herself. If so please send me the link[/FONT]
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Old 04-12-2009, 10:49 PM
 
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I think you should get her into appeciation of religions and be more open minded about the possibility that there might be something out there.

Either that or just tell her to not express her opinion on this ONE subject with her friends. I am sure young teen girls have tons of other subjects to talk about.
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Old 04-12-2009, 10:51 PM
 
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Move out of Texas City, for starters. You're asking about something that's just not mainstream in that place. I know, I grew up and went to school there.
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Old 04-12-2009, 10:55 PM
 
Location: K.T.
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I disagree about having her not express her opinions. She has a right to her opinions just as they do. I do agree however with her being able to be open minded to other peoples opinions or beliefs. She does not have to agree with them, but she simply needs to understand their POV and she needs to make friends with others who can understand her POV. Everyone does not need to surround themselves with like-minded people, that is what keeps this cycle or prejudism and racism alive. So, my opinion is not to help close your daughters mind, she can consider herself open minded because she is ok with homosexuality, because she does not prescribe to any religions, etc...but if she can't handle people with different beliefs than her own, then she is just as close minded as they are, just on the other side of the coin.
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Old 04-12-2009, 10:56 PM
 
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You'd probably have fewer issues with this in Houston than in Texas City.
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Old 04-12-2009, 11:00 PM
 
Location: Clear Lake Area
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I find it hard to believe that she can't find a group of friends who at the very least, don't really discuss that aspect of their lives. Regardless, she should never feel ashamed about her beliefs or non-beliefs. Polls show the percentage of Americans that classify themselves as non-believers or non-religious to be somewhere from 10-20%. I would reiterate with her that it is ok to disagree with her friends, but to be respectful about it. If certain "friends" make her feel bad or refuse to stop trying to convert her, then she should find new ones. But again, I think it is important for her to continue to seek a diverse friend group... being able to socialize with people from all different backgrounds is an important life skill.

To answer your request though, there are groups in Houston for nonbelievers. I'd start here: The Houston Freethought Alliance
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Old 04-12-2009, 11:03 PM
 
Location: Clear Lake Area
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Either that or just tell her to not express her opinion on this ONE subject with her friends.
Why does she have to be the one to suppress her beliefs/non-beliefs? She should be respectful of others beliefs, but shouldn't feel embarrassed about her own. If her friends have an issue with her beliefs then that is THEIR issue, not hers.
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Old 04-12-2009, 11:08 PM
 
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Why does she have to be the one to suppress her beliefs/non-beliefs? She should be respectful of others beliefs, but shouldn't feel embarrassed about her own. If her friends have an issue with her beliefs then that is THEIR issue, not hers.

She's 13, not 17.
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Old 04-12-2009, 11:12 PM
 
Location: K.T.
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What doer her age matter when it comes to her beliefs?

On a side note, I remember a Chris Rock skit where he talked about the benefits of not calling them beliefs, but rather ideas. Because people will die and kill over a belief, but an idea....you can change an idea. So as you get older, wiser, or influenced by some outside force, your ideas can change. It always stuck with me, and I like the concept of ideas over beliefs.
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Old 04-12-2009, 11:13 PM
 
Location: Clear Lake Area
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She's 13, not 17.
What does that have to do with anything? If it is acceptable for her friends to talk about their relationship with God/Jesus/Allah/Buddha/Flying Spaghetti Monster then what's wrong with her saying I don't believe in a god. If a friend invites her to VBS, does she have to make up a reason why she can't go, or is it ok for her to say she doesn't believe in that?

Last edited by LostInHouston; 04-12-2009 at 11:14 PM.. Reason: typo
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