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Old 07-10-2009, 03:51 PM
 
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Hmmm....house to sell. Maybe it is wise to consider staying behind and letting the hubby go for a while. Hopefully, the house will sell soon. Another benefit would be that he'd have time to leisurely explore areas of town and talk to co-workers and friends that he meets to see what they think will meet your needs. No sense rushing into a home purchase here unless you are comfortable with the home, school and area for a reasonable period of time. Can you come visit some, too? Is it a reasonable drive for you?
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Old 07-10-2009, 03:54 PM
 
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Can you come visit some, too? Is it a reasonable drive for you?
Nah, just use the webcam....
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Old 07-10-2009, 05:23 PM
 
Location: Huntsville area
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It's only a 10 hour drive so not too terribly bad. We'll figure something out. I think our house not selling is putting more stress on top of the stress of wondering where to live and what schools, etc. I appreciate all of the different input from everyone, it helps us to make a better decision with other ideas given to consider.
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Old 07-10-2009, 05:27 PM
 
Location: Huntsville area
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No more stress, eh? Separating the family is not stressful? Good luck to you. Sorry my hometown is not good enough. We'll work that much harder to make it right for you. Mkay?
I love your hometown. Went down there to visit and fell in love with it! It's just not knowing where to go for schools and housing, so many choices it's overwhelming. Plus our house not selling is the worst of it by far. I've worked myself into a migraine! I've only had four migraines in my life and this is bad! I'm sure it will all work out, moving is a highly stressful thing so I'm a bit of a nut case right now
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Old 07-10-2009, 05:44 PM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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my wife finish up her affairs back in California.

Did she find out about your affairs?

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Old 07-10-2009, 09:48 PM
 
Location: Alabama!
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LOL Charles! Where DO you find these hilarious photos?

If you want a bit of land, you would be better off out in the county...any county around Huntsville. Madison County, yes, but cheaper land in a neighboring county: Limestone, Morgan, Marshall, or even over the Tennessee border.
And since you're going to stay put for a while, you have plenty of time to look around. No pressure.
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Old 07-11-2009, 05:31 AM
 
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Did she find out about your affairs?
Yes Charles... I've told her about "us"

She said OK, as long as it's just cyber
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Old 07-13-2009, 12:20 PM
 
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My husband can go live down there and we will stay here until our house sells or he can find a different job back here. There, no more stress.
You're just asking for divorce IMO. It reads as though your desires are out of line with your husbands. It's a shame.

My home is where ever my family is and I'd live with them in hell over a heaven without them.

I think you just fear change... and that's possibly the worst of all fears because in fact, life is change. Embrace it... you'll find immeasurable happiness in going with the flow over swimming upstream. A positive attitude is the best place to live. The challenges you face are simply opportunites to have new experiences and discover new things about yourself. I've personally been there, done that, and am thankful I finally went where the wind blows. I cannot express the sense of relief... religious people would say its "giving in to God's will" or whatever; I say its simply not fighting everything in a vain effort to maintain the status quo and living in fear of change... in fact, in fear of life.

Let go of your worry, let the wind take you where it may, and enjoy every minute of the ride. Stress is all in your head... perfection is a state of mind. Good luck to you.

ps - the majority of schools and neighborhoods are good, the nitpicking you often read here is insane. Just go! The time you live in temporary housing while selling your home will give you a chance to get a feel for the town. Stop worrying! Life has this funky way of just working out when you have a positive attitude.

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Old 07-13-2009, 12:42 PM
 
Location: Rocket City, U.S.A.
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It's subjective, too...the level of BAD here is not as BAD as South Florida...the "ghettos", the schools (though performance is an issue), the neighbors, the crime...not comparable. Just not. But if you've lived here for a while, or an entire life...
and my BAD isn't as BAD as someone else's in NYC...ya know?

I don't know your location in FL and I understand wanting to go for better instead of same or worse, so you need to study whether or not this environment will fulfill your desires, after you've nailed down exactly what it is you and your husband want to get out of this move. Together, or you will be apart.

There are plenty of places to go. Breath...

(And good luck with the sale!)
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Old 07-13-2009, 01:17 PM
 
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You're just asking for divorce IMO. It reads as though your desires are out of line with your husbands. It's a shame.
Kind of harsh don't you think? I've known several people who have had to do this for a couple months. It isn't the end of the world, it is tough but it usually works out. It is hard to sell a house from 10 hours away.
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