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Old 07-27-2011, 12:00 PM
 
Location: Des Moines, Iowa
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City life is more evolved than farming. Look at history.
Does that statement even make sense?
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Old 07-27-2011, 01:12 PM
 
Location: Keosauqua, Iowa
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Does that statement even make sense?
Of course it does, at least to someone who has no idea what farming is and was completely unable to comprehend what I was saying in my post.
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Old 07-27-2011, 01:14 PM
 
Location: Des Moines, Iowa
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Of course it does, at least to someone who has no idea what farming is and was completely unable to comprehend what I was saying in my post.
gotcha.
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Old 07-30-2011, 08:31 PM
 
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Why is everyone so touchy? The OP is just having a hard time fitting in and trying to vent. She isn'nt attacking Iowa or it's people...so let her be. You are just feeding into a negative perception or experience she may be feelin as it is.

Now, with that said, small town living in SW Iowa or Wisconsin or Indiana will be the same. If you have been here a year and are unhappy, you will have to either make changes and adapt to be happy or find a middle ground for you and your spouse where you are happier and he is still close enough to family.

Have you tried getting a job to meet people and keep yourself busy? If you have kids, do you socialize with the other moms? I am just thinking of things that you could do to try to integrate yourself more into the area.

Rural Iowa may not be for everyone, but enjoy it's pros, serenity, laid back, easy going lifestlye and nature...and that will make the cons seem less important.

Good luck!
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Old 07-30-2011, 08:39 PM
 
Location: Keosauqua, Iowa
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Why is everyone so touchy? The OP is just having a hard time fitting in and trying to vent. She isn'nt attacking Iowa or it's people...so let her be.
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It is definitely difficult dealing with a smaller mentality here!
So, this is supposed to be complimentary?

I was feeling sympathetic and supportive until she tossed this bomb at us small-minded hicks.
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Old 07-30-2011, 10:55 PM
 
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Originally Posted by MissingChi-town
It is definitely difficult dealing with a smaller mentality here!



So, this is supposed to be complimentary?

I was feeling sympathetic and supportive until she tossed this bomb at us small-minded hicks.
I think she meant small town mentality...as referenced in the rest of her post. Probably a simple typo...geez!
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Old 07-31-2011, 10:30 AM
 
Location: Sioux Falls, SD area
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I think she meant small town mentality...as referenced in the rest of her post. Probably a simple typo...geez!
I hope you're right for her sake. If what and how she stated that sentence was not a typo, her chance to ever fit in is totally dictated by her own attitude. Her chance for acceptance, zippo.
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Old 07-31-2011, 12:11 PM
 
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I agree with you. If your assumption was correct, you are absolutely right. I am just tryng to giver her the benefit of the doubt. Plus, I know first hand how attitudes change from city to country, so I can appreciate that issue...

I think in general, when people move somewhere, they are the ones who have to adapt as opposed to the community adapting to them. If they aren't able to, they need to move on or else they will be unhappy.

I also think the internet can help people who feel detached or isolated...but that doesn't replace one to one interaction....and I think if people have a hard time getting along in a new place, you have to look at yourself first.

Midwesterners are nice people overall. Just like I tell this forum to give the OP a break and benefit of the doubt, I do so in assuming people in SW Iowa are decent. There is probably just some miscommunication going on here.

If you have any pics of the area mid summer, I would love to see them posted. I love seeing a tall, green cornfield in the summer sun on the plains.
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Old 08-15-2011, 04:40 AM
 
Location: Ottumwa
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Your about in between des monies, and Omaha just drive to either one of those city's to get some city type activities. Otherwise the best advice I can give you is find a hobby, because it doesn't get anymore interesting. Also keep an open mind, you might be surprised what you could learn from rural Iowa folks, and what you might have in common.
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Old 08-15-2011, 10:41 AM
 
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City life is more evolved than farming. Look at history.
I think farming has probably evolved as much in the past few generations just as much or more than many other professions.
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