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Old 10-06-2011, 09:06 AM
 
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He could call you alot of things. Hon and dear just seem the nicest at the time. He may be thinking ugly things to call you but he'd lose his job.
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Old 10-06-2011, 01:57 PM
 
Location: Lake Arlington Heights, IL
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OOPS, thought this thread was about deer hunting and Hon office furniture company in Muscatine.
Sorry for the intrusion.
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Old 10-06-2011, 08:14 PM
 
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Be thankful the clerk didn't call you a pompous old wind bag. I'd say "hon or dear" would be far superior to some of the alternatives that might be said these days. Why not write a letter to the editor of your local paper protesting the gross misconduct by these lowercase clerks and tradesmen. I'm sure they would find it equally appalling. What a funny thread...lol.
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Old 10-06-2011, 08:16 PM
 
Location: Keosauqua, Iowa
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OOPS, thought this thread was about deer hunting and Hon office furniture company in Muscatine.
Sorry for the intrusion.
Silly person, it's obviously about Bambi and Winnie the Pooh!
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Old 10-10-2011, 12:09 PM
 
Location: San Francisco
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I've not encountered this ANYWHERE else as an adult, even when I lived in deep south Arkansas!

You've obviously never been to Baltimore. "Hon" is an oft used expression by both men and women when addressing the opposite sex in public (strangers that is). I think such terms are rather nice and I'm glad there are other areas of the country where it happens (and I wish it did here). If you have that much of an issue with it you may want to move to a place where you know such terms of familiarity are not used in public - but I seriously doubt you'll be successful with a one woman campaign to stamp it out in Iowa.
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Old 10-11-2011, 08:15 AM
 
Location: Yellow cottage, green doors.
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I think it is flattering, respectful and pleasant. I wouldn't have it any other way.
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Old 10-12-2011, 11:36 PM
 
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Nosiree Bob.
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Old 10-21-2011, 10:38 AM
 
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Since I've moved to a largish small Iowa town I've been encountering a behavior that just drives me crazy.

Men in businesses like the grocery store, auto repair shop, and carpet place use the words "Hun" and "Dear" when talking to women.

As in, "it's the aisle on the left, Hun." "I'll call you when it's ready, dear."

Is this not 2011?

Did we not get rid of this kind of thing in the 1970s?

Do men in Central Iowa really not know that it is offensive to call a strange woman by words that should only be used as an endearment for a person they know well?

Do they not know to use the word "ma'am" when speaking with an older woman?

Do they not know when addressing younger women or women in general, it's fine to just leave off the endearment? "It's the aisle on the left." "I'll call you when it's ready."

Seriously, what is WRONG with them? Do men do this in other parts of Iowa?

I've not encountered this ANYWHERE else as an adult, even when I lived in deep south Arkansas!

well bless your heart, hon
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Old 10-22-2011, 10:12 AM
 
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Wow.

This is a classic example of a culture clash. The term of endearment is part of Iowa culture and is viewed upon positively by Iowans. They prefer it.
I've lived in Iowa my entire life. The first part in SE Iowa, and 10 years now in Des Moines. I prefer to not be addressed as "honey" or "dear" by people I don't know. I don't prefer it. I don't get upset about it or even really annoyed, but I really don't like it.

OTOH, I also do not like the term ma'am. If someone calls me that, it makes me feel old. I'd feel better about "HEY YOU!"

So, not ALL Iowans view it positively or prefer it. I actually find it to be a bit degrading when it is used in places that are supposedly "men's places" like an auto parts store. If I walk into O'Reilly to buy some oil or to pick up a bulb to fix my burnt out tailight (which I will do myself) don't say "What do you need, honey?" and assume that I don't know what I am looking for because I am a girl.
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Old 10-22-2011, 02:34 PM
 
Location: Approximately 50 miles from Missoula MT/38 yrs full time after 4 yrs part time
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I've lived in Iowa my entire life. The first part in SE Iowa, and 10 years now in Des Moines. I prefer to not be addressed as "honey" or "dear" by people I don't know. I don't prefer it. I don't get upset about it or even really annoyed, but I really don't like it.

OTOH, I also do not like the term ma'am. If someone calls me that, it makes me feel old. I'd feel better about "HEY YOU!"

So, not ALL Iowans view it positively or prefer it. I actually find it to be a bit degrading when it is used in places that are supposedly "men's places" like an auto parts store. If I walk into O'Reilly to buy some oil or to pick up a bulb to fix my burnt out tailight (which I will do myself) don't say "What do you need, honey?" and assume that I don't know what I am looking for because I am a girl.
........After re-reading your post and the original post in this Thread.......a few thoughts have crossed my mind:

1/...perhaps you and the person who authored post#1, could "PM" each other and discuss the possibility of "forming a club" since you both have similiar views on this subject.

2/...Lets see now.....at present the "unacceptable" list includes: Hon; Honey; Hun; Dear; Ma-am .....and maybe a few others that I've missed.
So, how about those terms that may be considered acceptable
under certain conditions. (Please "see #3 immediately below)

3/...Since many Iowans have dogs and frequently breed them.........the term "*****" is used quite often when referencing the female of the specie and no one ever seems to take offense,......................soooooooooo,
how about this as a hypothetical situation:

........Woman walks into restaurant/bar/poolhall in Strawberry Point, Iowa.... sits on a stool at the bar, looks the bartender in the eye and says nothing:..........The bartender waits patiently for a few more seconds and finally says:.......OK, *****, what'll you have? She grabs a pool cue and breaks it over his head!!!!

When he comes to, he says to the paramedic:...."These Iowa women are crazy.......yesterday I called her "Dear" and she threw a glass at me;.......day before I called her "Hon" and she spit in my face;...day before that I called her "Ma-am" and she "mooned" all my customers.......................so today I thought I'd call her a name that really fits ...........................and now I gotta buy a new pool cue.

"Some days you just can't win.!

Humor folks, Humor..................we need more of it in today's world.

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