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I'm in a weird situation. I have two part time jobs. One is for a very small business, with just a couple of other employees. The other is for my husband, and he is the only other employee. I have had these two jobs for almost 8 years.
I'm planning on divorce, and moving to a new state. Obviously, a new job is a necessity, and obviously, my husband cannot be one of my references. I have a great reference from my other job, and I think I could probably get another good one as well. That gives me two (so not none, I guess, but not what "they" suggest). I have not been in school for a number of years, live in a very rural area, and cannot think of anyone else to use as a professional reference. If I had a choice, I would prefer to get a new job more along the lines of what I do for my husband, rather than my other job (although that one involves a more unique skill).
Any ideas on what to do? This whole situation is extremely stressful and, honestly, scary.
first, typically you don't need to list references until after interviews- and even then, most employers ask for names and don't actually call anyone (unless you're talking about government or gov contractor jobs). Second, can you say you were self employed for the work with your husband? Perhaps a client could work?
best of luck
Usually you can also list a personal reference, so you could use a friend who would say good things about your character, work ethic, etc... for that one.
I'm in a weird situation. I have two part time jobs. One is for a very small business, with just a couple of other employees. The other is for my husband, and he is the only other employee. I have had these two jobs for almost 8 years.
I'm planning on divorce, and moving to a new state. Obviously, a new job is a necessity, and obviously, my husband cannot be one of my references. I have a great reference from my other job, and I think I could probably get another good one as well. That gives me two (so not none, I guess, but not what "they" suggest). I have not been in school for a number of years, live in a very rural area, and cannot think of anyone else to use as a professional reference. If I had a choice, I would prefer to get a new job more along the lines of what I do for my husband, rather than my other job (although that one involves a more unique skill).
Any ideas on what to do? This whole situation is extremely stressful and, honestly, scary.
Relax. This is simple. Make a list of all your neighbors and friends. Then for each one of them, list what they do for a living and where they work. Then review the list and those with the titles of "manager" or owner, ask them if they would be a reference for you.
Remember, a reference doesn't have to be someone you worked with. It can be someone who knows you professionally and is aware of your skills and work ethic. And they need to be a good reference, meaning they will be available to take a phone call and/or answer e-mail when asked without delay. That's important.
That is weird. All of my employers have always called my references.
I think it just depends on the place. I've held a ton of jobs but I think maybe one of them actually called my references. Usually an interview is enough to tell if a person will be good or not.
Are there vendors or clients you can use? I recently left a job where I was employee #2 and I don't want to use my employer as a character reference. I'm using a vendor that I worked with frequently--when she heard I was leaving she said "What are they going to do? You were always on top of everything!" and I asked if I could quote her on that, and she agreed.
If not, maybe a church leader or fellow volunteer? It doesn't have to be someone who managed you, peers can be references too. Just someone who knows about your reliability, reasoning skills, etc.
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