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Old 11-29-2013, 10:38 PM
 
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Before I start with the actual topic, I would first like to tell you guys that I'm not planning to
move to Las Vegas in a mere pipeline dream that Las Vegas would open me into a great life.
I'm moving here simply to open up a new chapter of my life. And I have done research. A lot of research; from stalking Scoop's threads to googling.
I know what I'm getting into, and I know it is likely that things are still gonna turn out uglier even more so than
what I'm expecting.

I've been working at my father's restaurant for about an year, and I've been working since the restaurant opened.
My father was once a very successful business man until he was charged a felony. I had to quit my 4-year university
due to financial difficulties struck down my family, although it is ironical that three of my step siblings are still going to
a private "elementary school" with 20k tuition per a kid and a year while I was pulled off from my college.

Since then, I've been working at a restaurant while pushing my arse off to feed and help spoiled siblings finish their school assignments.[mod cut--language]
Whenever I finally have a day off from 80 hours work every week, I'm still obligated to do the majority of the house work from laundry, cooking. etc. [mod cut-- language] I'm tired and stressed, yet I get ****stormed by father when I left work with my work desk unorganized.

Our restaurant is fairly slow. We serve about 40~50 customers on daily basis, but guess what. We have a cashier, and two
cooks not including myself. And whenever those people have day-offs, I have to stand at the cashier or line.
Yet I still order and manage inventory fairly well, and my co-workers like me because I work just as hard as they do, if
not harder. And my father comes only when he wants to cook a steak dinner for kids.

I don't get paid any, and barely get my allowance unless I need something for, let's say, renewing my ID.
Yet, I understand because it's a hard time for our family. Although the way my family deal with it is little questionable.
Yesterday, I was ****stormed again because I didn't remind my father to bring desserts from the vendor, after telling him once.
And then he asked me, "Looking at how unorganized and clumsy you are, I think you should go to military."
Well. I know I'm not organized. But whenever I need to pull out a 1-month old invoice ticket from a food vendor,
I pull it out in a minute. Yes I may be clumsy, but I do not usually miss order or leave my key at the office after my father.

My dream since I had been working at this restaurant was to be a chef at some point. Although my experience is limited to
a casual level latin american cuisine, I tried to learn as much as possible, and I developed my knife/butcher to "workable"
level from non-exsistent. On thanksgiving, we had small thanksgiving banquet and we were running out of oven space.
After working about 24 hours at the restaurant, I had to take some of the turkey to my house and roast them in the oven.
This is what my dad told me to do. "Broil Turkey wrapped with foil for an hour and half, and broil another hour and half unwrapped"
I asked "Broil entire time? You mean not bake after broil to just sear?" and he tells me, "See? You have zero sense in cooking.
You simply have no talent" Please correct me if I'm wrong.

And, I'm tired of it. My dad's other business with china worked out well and it's likely that I'd get paid some (like 25k).
With that money, I simply want to leave this place to move to a new place where I can learn beyond my experience.
Why Vegas? Please name any other city than Las Vegas that has world class establishments from Thomas Keller, Gordon Ramsay,
to Guy Savoy and many others, while having cheap cost of living compared to the major cities. I don't expect that I'd be
able to land on one of those establishments right away, if not ever, as my father described me "no talent". But I have the
drive. I may not have the skill set or some CIA degree, but I can work my butt off at Mcdonalds until I establish my
residency in Vegas and go to CSN Cheyenne to put some of the minimum number of bullets down my belt.

But this is all sketchy, and not a solid plan. So I'd like to hear some advices here from you guys so I can actually build
a solid plan.

My situation.

-25k starting budget.
-Willing to work two or more part-time until I establish my residency here at Vegas so I can
afford to go to CSN culinary school.

Any ideas?

Last edited by observer53; 11-30-2013 at 05:58 AM.. Reason: added some paragraphs to make reading easier, edited for language
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Old 11-29-2013, 11:11 PM
 
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It sounds like your plan of action is as good as you can possibly have given your current circumstances. I'd stick to it, Cinderella. You'll be fine. If you work as hard as you said, you'll do well in Las Vegas. Don't stress too much about the uncertainty of it all... I bet your life gets a lot better as soon as you leave that crazy family situation.
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Old 11-30-2013, 03:38 AM
 
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At some point people deserve to live their own life. Currently the average life span for a woman is about 75. Now figure in quality of life after about 60 anything health wise can happen. Do what you have to do.
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Old 11-30-2013, 04:07 AM
 
Location: Sunrise
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Holy wall of text, Batman!


Culinary school has it's uses. Go if you want. You will learn interesting stuff in culinary school. But let's face facts. There are only a few things I learned in culinary school that I wouldn't have learned working in fine-dining. For instance: Restaurants are not allowed to make their own smoked salmon or their own pâtés -- without considerable hardship. (HAACP rules.) You cannot practice those sorts of things in a restaurant. So it's either culinary school or a mentor.

Everything else, working fine dining puts a culinary school education to shame. Put any of my co-workers up against a culinary school graduate and tell them to make béarnaise sauce, fastest time wins. I'd mortgage my house and bet it on my co-worker.
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Old 11-30-2013, 08:02 AM
 
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Holy wall of text, Batman!


Culinary school has it's uses. Go if you want. You will learn interesting stuff in culinary school. But let's face facts. There are only a few things I learned in culinary school that I wouldn't have learned working in fine-dining. For instance: Restaurants are not allowed to make their own smoked salmon or their own pâtés -- without considerable hardship. (HAACP rules.) You cannot practice those sorts of things in a restaurant. So it's either culinary school or a mentor.

Everything else, working fine dining puts a culinary school education to shame. Put any of my co-workers up against a culinary school graduate and tell them to make béarnaise sauce, fastest time wins. I'd mortgage my house and bet it on my co-worker.
Although I have no idea how is restaurant business ran in Las Vegas, I know that I need some sort of qualification if I'd ever land myself on resort/casino. Right now, I have 1 year experience at a casual dining restaurant and I doubt if this is going to count at all at LV. So basically my plan right now is to work at a restaurant off the strip that pays 9-11 so I can survive while saving maybe a half out of that 25k, the starting budget and establish residency so I can attend CSN without loan.

My plan right now is to move to a cheap rent near spring valley (around 700/m) and get a cheapo used car(under 6k) from craiglist so I can start off from there. While I can't come up with any exact time frame, as I haven't been to LV, I'm expecting to work approximately 1 year until I can afford to go to CSN without super tight budget.

So what do you think about this plan? If you have a better idea, what would it be?
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Old 11-30-2013, 08:19 AM
 
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It sounds like your plan of action is as good as you can possibly have given your current circumstances. I'd stick to it, Cinderella. You'll be fine. If you work as hard as you said, you'll do well in Las Vegas. Don't stress too much about the uncertainty of it all... I bet your life gets a lot better as soon as you leave that crazy family situation.
My definition of hard working may not be up to your standards. However, yes I try and have tried my best. When I first started out as the manager at this place, I begged my employees to teach me how to use knife properly. I did from dish washing, emptying trash can to dump out frying oil, to earn their trust. Now I can trim meats and part a whole chicken properly, and dice big whole onion in a minute with some 15 dollar 12 inch chef knife purchased from a local restaurant supplier.

If I need to learn one thing, I can do whatever it takes to. I respect my co-workers as they do for me. I have thick skin built up; I have been hearing my own very father calling me "inferior DNA from a pathetic woman. a big time failure that's destined to fail in his life" at least once in a month. I think I will be able to hold it up.
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Old 11-30-2013, 10:49 AM
 
Location: Pahrump, NV
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silly question - can you move to vegas & survive WITHOUT the 25k? assuming you're going to get the 25k from your dad at this point is questionable. if he gives it to you, i'd consider that a bonus.
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Old 11-30-2013, 11:44 AM
 
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silly question - can you move to vegas & survive WITHOUT the 25k? assuming you're going to get the 25k from your dad at this point is questionable. if he gives it to you, i'd consider that a bonus.
How am I going to be able to survive without any money when I have no job lined up for me? If he refuses to give me that 25k, then, of course, I would not be able to move to LV immediately. If he tells me he's not going to give me a dime after working all that hours, then that's fine. Let be it. I'd probably end up getting a job at a local restaurant and work my way up till I feel secure I can survive in LV without a job for a couple months. And I'd no longer have to consider him as my dad and obligated to his words, which is another plus in my life.
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Old 11-30-2013, 11:51 AM
 
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Why doesn't he pay you on a regular basis? Does he pay the other employees on a regular basis? Do you have ownership interest in the restaurant?
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Old 11-30-2013, 12:25 PM
 
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Er,

You haven't said where you are. Can you find another job where you are now, find someplace to stay (roommate situation maybe), and self fund your education (through student loans if necessary.)

From what you've posted, you need to get away from your father ASAP. Moving to LV does not seem to be the quickest, cheapest, or easiest way of doing this.
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