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Old 01-31-2011, 02:04 PM
 
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I often see people wondering if they will be accepted in the neighborhood.

My question, When you were purchasing your house, were you worried about whether or not you will be accepted in the area?

What are some things that people do to show that one is not accepted in the neighborhood?

I am having a hard time with this simply because I could careless if my neighbors say hi to me.
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Old 01-31-2011, 02:07 PM
 
Location: Tri-State Area
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I often see people wondering if they will be accepted in the neighborhood.

My question, When you were purchasing your house, were you worried about whether or not you will be accepted in the area?

What are some things that people do to show that one is not accepted in the neighborhood?

I am having a hard time with this simply because I could careless if my neighbors say hi to me.
Burn a cross on their front lawn. Place a white robe and hat on your head, whilst riding a white horse and carry a hangmans noose in your right hand.
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Old 01-31-2011, 02:12 PM
 
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I often see people wondering if they will be accepted in the neighborhood.

My question, When you were purchasing your house, were you worried about whether or not you will be accepted in the area?

What are some things that people do to show that one is not accepted in the neighborhood?

I am having a hard time with this simply because I could careless if my neighbors say hi to me.
Agree 100%. I don't get it either. Are people so starved for friends that they buy a house hoping to make a BFF with granny next door?
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Old 01-31-2011, 02:16 PM
 
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Burn a cross on their front lawn. Place a white robe and hat on your head, whilst riding a white horse and carry a hangmans noose in your right hand.
We arent talking about extremes here and out of the norm. And if anything like that happens today, its big big news.
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Old 01-31-2011, 02:25 PM
 
Location: Long Island (chief in S Farmingdale)
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I think most people are asking before they move somewhere not after. And while I think it can sometimes be a bit silly and overblown, considering the past racist history involving housing such as block busting or even including racism built into the deeds of homes in certain areas (Garden City, Levittown) I do think its a legit concern. Hell we have a poster on here who said he specifically picked his neighborhood because it wasn't diverse and virtually all white and said he would consider moving to a whiter area if a few minority families move onto his block. Now, his type of thinking is thankfully the exception rather than the rule, but I understand why the whole being accepted thing may be a legit concern to some people,
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Old 01-31-2011, 02:27 PM
 
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not at all. i wanted to know if there were kids in the neighborhood. the first year, we exchanged hellos wit neighbors. not much else. now 2 and a half years later, we're bossom buddies with a few of them. but never worried if i would be accepted. of course i would. i'm so cool.
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Old 01-31-2011, 03:35 PM
 
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I'm not sure if the OP is talking about what Frmly Brooklyn was joking about.

I think that sometimes it really does take a year or three before you're widely accepted.

Some people are more friendly than others.

I'm certianly not the outgoing, making friends with everyone type, but it is nice to be accepted, and have neighbors looking out for and playing nice with one another.
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Old 01-31-2011, 04:35 PM
 
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I don't want to be best friends with my neighbors but I do want to be on good terms with them. I usually will stop and talk for a few minutes if we are both outside, especially in the nicer weather, but I prefer to keep it at that level.
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Old 01-31-2011, 04:47 PM
 
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Someone define being "accepted"
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Old 02-01-2011, 07:40 AM
 
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Someone define being "accepted"
Accepted - neighbor acknowledges you with a wave of hand, a nod of head or a verbal hello - politely! When I moved in, neighbor was driving by, rolled down the window and said hello, introduced himself, said where he lived and see ya around. Heck, we get together for a drink every now and then. The last snowfall, he came over and helped me dig out the 4 feet plus of packed snow and ice deposited from the town plow. Now that's a neighbor! Another neighbor, brought me a bottle of wine and a gift for my kid when born. Another great neighbor! Another neighbor, first year in, brought me and my wife cookies for New Years. I have a garden, when the bumper crop came in - I shared it with my neighbors. It's sort of like state farm - we're there for each other,

Not accepted - neighbor flashes wierd looks at you, throws garbage on your front lawn, purposesly parks car close to driveway apron as to make manuevering in or out difficult
One neighbor down the block, sees me, acts as if I'm not there, and quickly scoots back into home. I must be a leper. . Another neighbor, out with a monster snow thrower sees his next door neighbor (not me), elderly, struggling with a shovel, what does he do, he finishes up, puts the machine away and ignores the older man. - That's not a neighbor...that's a Moderator cut: language removed
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