The day before we closed, the bank called my employer one more time to make certain that I was still employed there...even after they got a few references to verify my employment a few days before that. They made sure that I was employed all the way to the last minute before closing. This happened a few weeks ago. When we closed on our first home, it was so much more cut and dry. I felt like I was cross-examined from multiple angles this time around. Needless to say it is over. You will be fine, I feel like what you are going through are just formalities. Every person at the bank involved in your mortgage has to go through protocol to cover themself in case god forbid you were to default on your mortgage. Don't worry, this too shall pass and soon you will be a homeowner
Best wishes!!!