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Old 08-29-2010, 10:46 PM
 
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I've been living here in Los Angeles for nearly three years now and find it very hard to make a really good friend here. I just transferred from a community college and will start ucla this coming fall. I am currently on summer break and am bored to death since I don't really have any real friends here. I think part of the problem is that I don't know how to carry a good conversation with anyone. A lot of times either the conversation dies away and I find myself trying hard to think of things to say..or..I say things that don't really seem interest people. Sometimes I compare myself to others, and think that physical beauty really helps..iono. What should I do? I think most of this problem stems from my past..I was always a very sheltered kid, growing up, and never really left the house to meet and talk to people. And now it's horrible because I don't know how to carry a great conversation with anyone. Before, I would simply go to school and come home everyday. and now..I am at my breaking point...and mentally emotional. I mean how can a person survive years without a real friend? The saddest part is that when I think I've made a friend, the friendship merely stays in school and never goes beyond that...I never get invited to any parties or anything. I tried really hard in college too..I joined a couple of clubs and tried meeting people..I've tried talking and doing my best to conduct social gatherings and such but it hasn't helped. It seems like people in college only befriend me for academic help..but nothing more. I guess this is because I was always viewed as the "smart kid"...never anything more than that. And now..I am so confused. I want to break away from that image...and I don't know what to do..I don't know where to start...can any of you please give me good advice? Thank you!!!
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Old 08-29-2010, 10:59 PM
 
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I just moved here a month ago. I have a few friends, but I'd love to chill with you sometime.
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Old 08-29-2010, 11:23 PM
 
Location: Declezville, CA
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You might find things will improve when you start attending university in the Fall, as opposed to your experiences in grades 13 and 14.
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Old 08-30-2010, 01:08 AM
 
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I've been living here in Los Angeles for nearly three years now and find it very hard to make a really good friend here. I just transferred from a community college and will start ucla this coming fall. I am currently on summer break and am bored to death since I don't really have any real friends here. I think part of the problem is that I don't know how to carry a good conversation with anyone. A lot of times either the conversation dies away and I find myself trying hard to think of things to say..or..I say things that don't really seem interest people. Sometimes I compare myself to others, and think that physical beauty really helps..iono. What should I do? I think most of this problem stems from my past..I was always a very sheltered kid, growing up, and never really left the house to meet and talk to people. And now it's horrible because I don't know how to carry a great conversation with anyone. Before, I would simply go to school and come home everyday. and now..I am at my breaking point...and mentally emotional. I mean how can a person survive years without a real friend? The saddest part is that when I think I've made a friend, the friendship merely stays in school and never goes beyond that...I never get invited to any parties or anything. I tried really hard in college too..I joined a couple of clubs and tried meeting people..I've tried talking and doing my best to conduct social gatherings and such but it hasn't helped. It seems like people in college only befriend me for academic help..but nothing more. I guess this is because I was always viewed as the "smart kid"...never anything more than that. And now..I am so confused. I want to break away from that image...and I don't know what to do..I don't know where to start...can any of you please give me good advice? Thank you!!!
I'll give you a tip, howyoudoin450. When you meet somebody, do not ask, "How you doin'?" It's 2010 and hardly anybody watches Friends or that Joey show anymore.
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Old 08-30-2010, 02:02 AM
 
Location: California
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Join a frat.
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Old 08-30-2010, 05:23 AM
 
Location: Malibu/Miami Beach
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I've been living here in Los Angeles for nearly three years now and find it very hard to make a really good friend here. I just transferred from a community college and will start ucla this coming fall. I am currently on summer break and am bored to death since I don't really have any real friends here. I think part of the problem is that I don't know how to carry a good conversation with anyone. A lot of times either the conversation dies away and I find myself trying hard to think of things to say..or..I say things that don't really seem interest people. Sometimes I compare myself to others, and think that physical beauty really helps..iono. What should I do? I think most of this problem stems from my past..I was always a very sheltered kid, growing up, and never really left the house to meet and talk to people. And now it's horrible because I don't know how to carry a great conversation with anyone. Before, I would simply go to school and come home everyday. and now..I am at my breaking point...and mentally emotional. I mean how can a person survive years without a real friend? The saddest part is that when I think I've made a friend, the friendship merely stays in school and never goes beyond that...I never get invited to any parties or anything. I tried really hard in college too..I joined a couple of clubs and tried meeting people..I've tried talking and doing my best to conduct social gatherings and such but it hasn't helped. It seems like people in college only befriend me for academic help..but nothing more. I guess this is because I was always viewed as the "smart kid"...never anything more than that. And now..I am so confused. I want to break away from that image...and I don't know what to do..I don't know where to start...can any of you please give me good advice? Thank you!!!
This is how to do conversation, physical beauty means nothing.

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Old 08-30-2010, 07:00 AM
 
Location: Shenzhen.China
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sorry but live in China...
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Old 08-30-2010, 07:37 AM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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I never get invited to any parties or anything
I don't know how to carry a great conversation with anyone
I say things that don't really seem interest people
I find it very hard to make a really good friend here.
I say things that don't really seem interest people
I don't know how to carry a great conversation with anyone
I'm bored to death
I say things that don't really seem interest people
I don't really have any real friends
I say things that don't really seem interest people
I never get invited to any parties or anything
I don't know how to carry a good conversation with anyone.
I say things that don't really seem interest people
I don't know how to carry a great conversation with anyone
the conversation dies away
I never get invited to any parties or anything
I find myself trying hard to think of things to say.
I say things that don't really seem interest people.
I don't know how to carry a great conversation with anyone.
I never get invited to any parties or anything.
I predict you will make an excellent engineer.

Engineers think people they are speaking with yawn because they are tired.



What do engineers use for birth control?
Spoiler
Their personalities.


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Old 08-30-2010, 08:40 AM
 
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Maybe the OP should take up tennis or learn Chinese.

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sorry but live in China...
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Old 08-30-2010, 09:01 AM
 
Location: Here&There
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You might find things will improve when you start attending university in the Fall, as opposed to your experiences in grades 13 and 14.
Snap!

I find appearances do help, in initializing contact. Sorry if that seems shallow but pretty people just fair better. I have no idea what you look like but from what you typed (OP), I'd probably walk the other way too. People can sense desperation, total turn off.
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