Making Friends in Los Angeles (Industry: middle school, beaches, activity)

[CaliNum1]

It really ain't hard to make friends in Los Angeles . You can make friends here really easily actually Cx

[Drake744]

I moved to LA from Tennessee and made some friends pretty quickly. I lived in Hollywood but went to school in the Valley as a 26 year old guy. Hollywood was interesting and I met a few friends by going to sports bars and stuff and meeting other young people not from the area. However I really liked the locals I met at school in the Valley. They were the most real people I came across and I enjoyed it. I was just myself and that's the best thing you can do.

[lisathebrunette]

I am a 33 year old (look younger) attractive female that moved to LA a couple years ago and who works from home. I am dying because I want to meet new friends and its so hard. I do admit I would like to meet attractive fashionable girls that want to goto events and parties and in LA like myself. I really wanted to goto Sunset Music Festival tonight, but did not want to go alone. If I go anywhere alone I usually end up drinking and having guys hit on me. Not a good combination when alone. To be honest so far what I have seen on meet.up is not for me. I'd like to hang out with someone who attractive and fashionable. Every week there are so many things I want to do, but not alone….

[cutecariann]

My 19 year old daughter is new to Los Angeles and trying to meet friends, see //www.city-data.com/forum/los-a...s-angeles.html if you are looking for friends as well.

[cutecariann]

Originally Posted by lisathebrunette

I am a 33 year old (look younger) attractive female that moved to LA a couple years ago and who works from home. I am dying because I want to meet new friends and its so hard. I do admit I would like to meet attractive fashionable girls that want to goto events and parties and in LA like myself. I really wanted to goto Sunset Music Festival tonight, but did not want to go alone. If I go anywhere alone I usually end up drinking and having guys hit on me. Not a good combination when alone. To be honest so far what I have seen on meet.up is not for me. I'd like to hang out with someone who attractive and fashionable. Every week there are so many things I want to do, but not alone….

Have you met people yet?

[blksophisticado]

Originally Posted by recentmover

I'm a late thirties single female in Los Angeles living on the Westside. I moved here about two years ago and still find it extremely difficult to make friends. I'm not religious, so church is out, and the one Meetup group I attended, for hiking, was not very friendly (I had to initiate all conversation). The few women who have actually reached out to me have, in some unfortunate twist of fate, all moved away. Friends of friends have invited me out once or twice but then were unavailable to get together again. My current workplace is very small and I am unlikely to socialize with my coworkers.

I've tried a lot of online dating, but out of the more than 40 dates I've been on, only one has become a friend. It seems that the protocol here is to "disappear" when not romantically interested (the rudeness of that is still difficult for me to accept), so making friends with men seems about as impossible as befriending women.

I used to be social and have a ton of friends, so I figure that I can't be the only one finding this difficult. Anyone have any good suggestions on groups, clubs, or activities? I'm pretty much at a loss. I do dance, and have met a few people that way, but we only see each other at dance events.

Making friends in L.A. is tough. Don't know where you're from but this is a really tough city to make friends in. I was born in the Midwest raised on the east coast and been here since 2002 and by the time I finish writing my perception of this all of the L.A. NATIVES on this forum will probably hate me but guess what I DON'T CARE. This city is vapid cold and has no soul nor character and the majority of the people here are the same. If you have any sort of intellect and conversation that goes beyond "Oh my God guess what so and so wore to the Golden Globes" you are going to have a hard time here because character and intellect are not valued here. What is valued is beauty material and more beauty and more material. L.A. is all about what's on the surface and it gets no deeper than that unless you happen to know somebody who knows somebody that can help that somebody you just met become a model rapper singer dancer pornstar or whatever the people you are meeting are imagining themselves to be at that moment. And even regular people who are not caught up into the whole INDUSTRY tend to be flakey and self absorbed and downright delusional. YUP I JUST SUMMED UP A GET PORTION OF PEOPLE IN THE L.A. METRO LOL.

[ElysianEagle]

Originally Posted by Drake744

I moved to LA from Tennessee and made some friends pretty quickly. I lived in Hollywood but went to school in the Valley as a 26 year old guy. Hollywood was interesting and I met a few friends by going to sports bars and stuff and meeting other young people not from the area. However I really liked the locals I met at school in the Valley. They were the most real people I came across and I enjoyed it. I was just myself and that's the best thing you can do.

You made friends because you were in school. If you have a solid network of friends from school and you stay in touch with them after you graduate, then you can continue meeting people through them and making even more friends that way. However, if for any reason your network dwindles significantly and you have to seek out friends on your own, it can be much harder. This often starts happening once ppl get into their late 20s. Marriage/serious relationships, having a child, job-related moves or just jobs with long hours etc. can all take a toll.

Most of the people that I know in their 30s have literally just 2 - 3 real friends that they can regularly hang out with.

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[jamills21]

Originally Posted by blksophisticado

Making friends in L.A. is tough. Don't know where you're from but this is a really tough city to make friends in. I was born in the Midwest raised on the east coast and been here since 2002 and by the time I finish writing my perception of this all of the L.A. NATIVES on this forum will probably hate me but guess what I DON'T CARE. This city is vapid cold and has no soul nor character and the majority of the people here are the same. If you have any sort of intellect and conversation that goes beyond "Oh my God guess what so and so wore to the Golden Globes" you are going to have a hard time here because character and intellect are not valued here. What is valued is beauty material and more beauty and more material. L.A. is all about what's on the surface and it gets no deeper than that unless you happen to know somebody who knows somebody that can help that somebody you just met become a model rapper singer dancer pornstar or whatever the people you are meeting are imagining themselves to be at that moment. And even regular people who are not caught up into the whole INDUSTRY tend to be flakey and self absorbed and downright delusional. YUP I JUST SUMMED UP A GET PORTION OF PEOPLE IN THE L.A. METRO LOL.

0/10 would not read again.

Edit: Also needs more commas.

[radiolibre99]

Making friends in LA? LOL. Yeah good luck.

Joking aside, its tough. This city is so transient, people lived change so fast or they're moving to another part of town or they're too busy trying to make ends meet that it's just way too hard to fit a lasting friendship into your schedule. You will connect with someone for a day and then never hear from them again.

Your best bet is through a social network; church, school, work and online meet-up groups of similar interests.

[MordinSolus]

Originally Posted by blksophisticado

Making friends in L.A. is tough. Don't know where you're from but this is a really tough city to make friends in. I was born in the Midwest raised on the east coast and been here since 2002 and by the time I finish writing my perception of this all of the L.A. NATIVES on this forum will probably hate me but guess what I DON'T CARE. This city is vapid cold and has no soul nor character and the majority of the people here are the same. If you have any sort of intellect and conversation that goes beyond "Oh my God guess what so and so wore to the Golden Globes" you are going to have a hard time here because character and intellect are not valued here. What is valued is beauty material and more beauty and more material. L.A. is all about what's on the surface and it gets no deeper than that unless you happen to know somebody who knows somebody that can help that somebody you just met become a model rapper singer dancer pornstar or whatever the people you are meeting are imagining themselves to be at that moment. And even regular people who are not caught up into the whole INDUSTRY tend to be flakey and self absorbed and downright delusional. YUP I JUST SUMMED UP A GET PORTION OF PEOPLE IN THE L.A. METRO LOL.

I'm not a native but I think your post is stupid and melodramatic. I've been in Los Angeles less than a year and I've already made too many friends to count. I used to be very closed off, quiet and introverted to a fault, but I made the effort and it payed off. I went out to concerts, comedy shows, art exhibitions, pop-up restaurants, hobby shops, music stores, etc and introduced myself to strangers, mingled, flirted, exchanged info, all of that. I found people with similar interests and hobbies. I didn't just insert myself into groups of vapid young wannabe actors and models and expect them to change to suit me.
If you're socially retarded and can't make friends how is that the city's fault? Los Angeles is like any other city. Some people suck, most of them are totally normal, and some of them are really freakin' rad.