Do i need to calm down ? (home, middle school, living)

[clairelv]

i think i am a happy woman ,i have a warm family ,a cute son ,and a kind husband . i know my life is ordinary but it is ok for me ,i have never want too much . but days ago i met my middle school classmate who was a very close friend of me at that time . after graduated from middle school we kept in touch for a very long time but we lost information from eachother for no detail reasons later . i don't know why i didn't try to find him .........

days ago we met in another city ,it was so coincident and we recognized each other without any delay . we were so happy !! that evening we had dinner together and talk our life so friendly . i could tell that he was so emotional when we were talking . afterward what he told me and show me were really touched me that was he showed me my picture which was my middle school profile in his mobile phone . he said he kept this picture in his mobile more than 20 years even during these years he changed so many phones . and the way how he had tried to find me was so moved .......

i don't know how to describe my feeling now . after i back home i have been keeping think about this !! i think i should do something for him or for us . but what should i do ?? say thank you to him ? send a gift to him ? keep in touch with him ?

life is so dramatic sometimes . but anyway what i absolutely know is that i must cherish the friendship between us . but the matter is my heart is a little bit fluctuant ,emotional and complicated .........

i want to calm down....

[elliotgb]

What you describe is the very reason I dropped Facebook. I saw an old flame out there and was continually drawn to her page. I never contacted her, though.

My advice: stick with what you have, it sounds great and not a lot of people have that kind of happiness.
Sure, cherish the friendship, but keep it at that level.
Let him know that what he wants is out of the question.

Once that seed of infidelity is planted, it tends to grow.
Maybe there is a need you have to address with your husband.

Best of luck!

[elliotgb]

I traced my wife's phone records once when I suspected something might be going on with her.
She was working in NY and a guy she knew from HS was living not far where she was working at the time.

Gee, coincidentally, I saw quite a few calls to the NY area. We live in NC.
Also, I looked at her Facebook (probably shouldn't have) and found that they met for dinner and also saw messages voicing her concern for some injury that he had. Also about "owing" her a dance.

Steer clear if you value what you have now.
I could never prove within a shadow of a doubt that there was any impropriety, but that seed of doubt had been planted.

Tread lightly and just be aware that there are many ways to find out what someone has been up to.

[rgathrights]

Originally Posted by clairelv

i think i am a happy woman...

i want to calm down....

After looking at your previous posts... //www.city-data.com/forum/mental-health/2358643-so-stressful.html

I think you are not as happy as you may think.

Could you be looking to this man as an escape from your current life?

Either way, there are two people in your household that depend on you and likely want to see you focus more time & attention on their lives.