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Old 04-05-2011, 05:20 PM
 
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You are right. I don't really want to die. The part of me that does is way overpowered by the survivalist in me. I am in a junior college, so they have no form of health system at all. They have limited school counselors but those are just for school related issues. There is a community health clinic I have gone to in the past that I might try, they might have something there. Someone also suggested joining a group therapy. I might give it a shot. I actually went and applied for a job yesterday. It took a long time to get the guts to do it, but like I said, I'm a survivalist. I also dropped out of half my classes yesterday. I was positive the people in those classes hated me. The ones I stayed in I'm able to blend in and hide easier I think. Anyways, thanks for all your advice.

And to marlow, I've been depressed/asocial for as long as I can remember. I grew up in a very unstable, abusive house, and it's taken me a few years of being on my own to realize my problems just aren't going to go away and they seem to be getting worse so i am looking for answers. even if it just means i'm able to leave my room without having a panic attack, or walk past people without having the feeling of a rabbit being chased by wolves.
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Old 04-05-2011, 06:27 PM
 
Location: North Western NJ
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go to the community clinic and see if they have connections with a community mental health clinic, many cities DO have community clinics with specialists in mental helth...if you feel this is getting worse you NEED to get help now because it can and will get to a point of dangrous levels without a little bit of help, group therapy is a great idea, look for one specifically designed for social phobias and/or agoraphobia, itll be hard at first but being around others who know how it feels is definatly helpfull.

good luck and please keep us updated
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Old 04-05-2011, 07:13 PM
 
Location: Newport, Rhode Island
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dude. you're young and got the world by the cojones.

GO FOR IT !
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Old 04-05-2011, 10:31 PM
 
Location: Santa Cruz, California
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dude. you're young and got the world by the cojones.

GO FOR IT !
Wow.
That's such a glib thing to say to someone who is depressed, fearful and suffering.
Hopefully it will roll off his back but it's not the best way to talk to someone who is extremely sensitive and suffering.
I'm sure your intentions are good but .....

Monsterfiend ... no matter what route you choose, i hope you find some support.
It may help to find a support group with people who are dealing with similar issues.
I know what it's like to be extremely depressed, to tend to isolate and to feel extremely uncomfortable with other people.
Just realize that it's very difficult to be in this world and it's even more difficult when you are a very sensitive person and who wasn't seen or cared for properly (and abused) as a child.
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Old 04-05-2011, 10:47 PM
 
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I don't know what to do. I live in a house with 4 other roommates. When I hear somebody outside in the kitchen or living room this fear comes over me and I crawl in bed and won't come out til I'm positive everybody's gone. Last night they were out there all night. I almost ate some ramen without cooking it because I couldn't go in the kitchen. I have eaten it uncooked before but it's not very good, I'd rather just be hungry. I was thinking about climbing out my window, I have before and it's easy but I'm afraid to go in the store. I don't know what I'm going to do for school tomorrow, I've already skipped too many classes I'm considering dropping out of college. Nobody likes me. I dint blame them I'm kind of a creep I sort of wish I could just die or not exist anymore.

Is there any way to stop being afraid of people?
I noticed you answered.
I think a support group would be a GREAT idea! There may also be a sliding scale counselors in the area you are in too!
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Old 04-05-2011, 10:48 PM
 
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Wow.
That's such a glib thing to say to someone who is depressed, fearful and suffering.
Hopefully it will roll off his back but it's not the best way to talk to someone who is extremely sensitive and suffering.
I'm sure your intentions are good but .....

Monsterfiend ... no matter what route you choose, i hope you find some support.
It may help to find a support group with people who are dealing with similar issues.
I know what it's like to be extremely depressed, to tend to isolate and to feel extremely uncomfortable with other people.
Just realize that it's very difficult to be in this world and it's even more difficult when you are a very sensitive person and who wasn't seen or cared for properly (and abused) as a child.
Good advice.
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Old 04-06-2011, 10:42 AM
 
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You are right. I don't really want to die. The part of me that does is way overpowered by the survivalist in me. I am in a junior college, so they have no form of health system at all. They have limited school counselors but those are just for school related issues. There is a community health clinic I have gone to in the past that I might try, they might have something there. Someone also suggested joining a group therapy. I might give it a shot. I actually went and applied for a job yesterday. It took a long time to get the guts to do it, but like I said, I'm a survivalist. I also dropped out of half my classes yesterday. I was positive the people in those classes hated me. The ones I stayed in I'm able to blend in and hide easier I think. Anyways, thanks for all your advice.

And to marlow, I've been depressed/asocial for as long as I can remember. I grew up in a very unstable, abusive house, and it's taken me a few years of being on my own to realize my problems just aren't going to go away and they seem to be getting worse so i am looking for answers. even if it just means i'm able to leave my room without having a panic attack, or walk past people without having the feeling of a rabbit being chased by wolves.
Glad you came back and gave us an update! Congratulations on applying for the job. I know that took a lot of guts! Hope you get it. Also hope you can pursue some kind--any kind--of therapy.

When you start thinking that people hate you, try to remember this: To hate someone, you have to know something about them and you usually have to know them well. The people in your classes, or who you see on the street, don't have enough information about you to hate you or like you. For the most part, they're not even thinking about you.

If you feel yourself starting to panic, recite to yourself "They don't hate me or like me because they don't even know me." Try to use your logical mind to calm yourself down.

My heart goes out to you and I wish you the best.
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Old 04-06-2011, 11:01 AM
 
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I don't know what to do. I live in a house with 4 other roommates. When I hear somebody outside in the kitchen or living room this fear comes over me and I crawl in bed and won't come out til I'm positive everybody's gone. Last night they were out there all night. I almost ate some ramen without cooking it because I couldn't go in the kitchen. I have eaten it uncooked before but it's not very good, I'd rather just be hungry. I was thinking about climbing out my window, I have before and it's easy but I'm afraid to go in the store. I don't know what I'm going to do for school tomorrow, I've already skipped too many classes I'm considering dropping out of college. Nobody likes me. I dint blame them I'm kind of a creep I sort of wish I could just die or not exist anymore.

Is there any way to stop being afraid of people?
You need to get professional help and NOW. Go to your college and they should have a mental health clinic there. If you can't do that, call you parents or other friends and let them know what is going on with you. You need help right now. Go for it!
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Old 04-06-2011, 11:03 AM
 
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dude. you're young and got the world by the cojones.

GO FOR IT !
He can't go for it right now. What part of his post went right over your head?
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