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Yeah, I'm assuming the OP is an abusive relationship..
Why not give us more OP? Maybe we can help..
lol...I'm not in an abusive relationship.
I'll tell you the reason I asked this question although it might be difficult to follow so bear with me.
There are a lot of people out there who are socially awkward, inept and avoidant. But there's a reason why these people are the way they are. Many of them have been social outcasts all there lives. There was once a time where they tried to make friends, tried to open themselves up to people but were rejected, mocked and ridiculed at a young age. As a result they've isolated themselves from society and other people because it got so bad.
Basically what I'm saying is that there's a reason why people are socially inept. At some point you take the hint and realize that people flat out don't like you and you stop trying.
The other thing is that more socially competent people will tell the socially inept is that in order to learn social skills they must go out there and meet people. But I would think that if a socially inept person tries to do this they will face the same thing they have faced their entire lives. So how much more are these people supposed to take before something finally gives?
Everybody is socially inept in some situations. I could not engage in public speaking for years. Started working on it in college, challenged myself and now I am like a fish in water. Challenge yourself a little, then rise to that level, then repeat until you have the skill!
I'll tell you the reason I asked this question although it might be difficult to follow so bear with me.
There are a lot of people out there who are socially awkward, inept and avoidant. But there's a reason why these people are the way they are. Many of them have been social outcasts all there lives. There was once a time where they tried to make friends, tried to open themselves up to people but were rejected, mocked and ridiculed at a young age. As a result they've isolated themselves from society and other people because it got so bad.
Basically what I'm saying is that there's a reason why people are socially inept. At some point you take the hint and realize that people flat out don't like you and you stop trying.
The other thing is that more socially competent people will tell the socially inept is that in order to learn social skills they must go out there and meet people. But I would think that if a socially inept person tries to do this they will face the same thing they have faced their entire lives. So how much more are these people supposed to take before something finally gives?
Yeah, ok.. if every time you push a button a hammer comes out of the wall and clonks you on top of the head, pretty soon you're gonna think twice before pushing that same button again..
I guess the only reason to dare pushing that button is if there was something you really needed on the other side of that door.. if not, why bother taking another shot on the noggin'? If there's a reason why there will be no other way for you to get what you want then you'll do it. But if you/whoever is happy enough with said limited, or is it non-existent social life then so be it. If you want to find a woman, maybe go where they will think like you do.. book clubs? Night classes? Wine tasting? Not facetious, just doubt that no one, nowhere, no how will like you.. haven't seen that.
I'll tell you the reason I asked this question although it might be difficult to follow so bear with me.
There are a lot of people out there who are socially awkward, inept and avoidant. But there's a reason why these people are the way they are. Many of them have been social outcasts all there lives. There was once a time where they tried to make friends, tried to open themselves up to people but were rejected, mocked and ridiculed at a young age. As a result they've isolated themselves from society and other people because it got so bad.
Basically what I'm saying is that there's a reason why people are socially inept. At some point you take the hint and realize that people flat out don't like you and you stop trying.
The other thing is that more socially competent people will tell the socially inept is that in order to learn social skills they must go out there and meet people. But I would think that if a socially inept person tries to do this they will face the same thing they have faced their entire lives. So how much more are these people supposed to take before something finally gives?
Correction: you're socially inept right now. But being socially inept right now doesn't mean you have to stay that way.
When you learn to ride a bike, you're inept at first, right? You get better by riding more, not by avoiding the bike. Social skills are the same. They can be learned. That means your social skills can improve, and eventually you can feel much less socially inept. But it takes practice out in the world with other people.
There's no way out but through.
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