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Old 08-18-2011, 01:09 AM
 
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I'm dating a guy who used to kill animals when he was a kid. He says that there was all kinds of animals and that there were many. He also says that he stopped killing animals when he turned into an adult. What am I getting into here? Is this guy nuts? Should I ask him if he stopped killing animals in order to start killing humans? Why would a child kill animals? Please , if anyone knows why a child would kill an animal, or many, why?!
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Old 08-18-2011, 01:23 AM
 
Location: The 719
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Children are kind of cruel that way and they hopefully grow out of it.

I remember when I was about 8 a friend would kill a bug or something and throw a bug funeral and stuff.

Ask him if he ever made amends for that.

If kids are still pulling wings off bugs after 12, there might be a problem.
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Old 08-18-2011, 03:52 AM
 
Location: St. Louis
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I guess I would have to ask whether this was in the company of other kids or whether it was a secret passion. I remember how violent the boys in the neighborhood were and how one night they were riding around on their bikes and they had taken a bar off of one (banana seat days) and impaled as many toads on it as they could find so they could go scare a neighbor lady with it and I was appalled, though I don't think it was mentally ill behavior. I have no idea how often they tortured small animals but I'm thinking that if done in a group I'd be less troubled by the past behavior than if it was a secretive type thing. The truth is, we are a hunting species and will do things like that as children, just like your cat brings home a mouse to bat around and play with. We girls don't really understand it though as I've never known any girls to exhibit these behaviors though that doesn't mean it didn't happen.
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Old 08-18-2011, 04:41 AM
 
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Thank you stepka and McGowdog, I'll make sure to ask him these questions. I am very interested in knowing if these animals were little or big. He was about to tell me that he killed a bird with a big neck, but I cut him off, that day. I asked him why he was so angry. He said that he wasn't, that his step dad was like that, killing animals, so he did it too. That explanation doesn't convince me, though.
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Old 08-18-2011, 05:11 AM
 
Location: Helsinki, Finland
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Many serial killers started their career with animals.

If I had killed animals as a child I would definitely not tell my girlfriend about it.

My personal opinion is, as you have already also suspected: The dude is nutz, don't ever leave him alone with your cat. He might kill it and say: Oh, I'm sorry I did not mean to, it was just a silly prank, you know I love you. Tomorrow I shall buy you a turtle.

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Old 08-18-2011, 05:32 AM
 
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Many serial killers started their career with animals.

If I had killed animals as a child I would definitely not tell my girlfriend about it.

My personal opinion is, as you have already also suspected: The dude is nutz, don't ever leave him alone with your cat. He might kill it and say: Oh, I'm sorry I did not mean to, it was just a silly prank, you know I love you. Tomorrow I shall buy you a turtle.

Lol! That does sound like a crazy person!
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Old 08-18-2011, 05:39 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Red flags are being waved in your face. Run, don't walk away from this guy.
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Old 08-18-2011, 05:45 AM
 
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Red flags are being waved in your face. Run, don't walk away from this guy.
as someone that worked in the mental health field---put on your track shoes and run in the opposite direction with NO further contact
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Old 08-18-2011, 05:53 AM
 
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Red flags are being waved in your face. Run, don't walk away from this guy.
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as someone that worked in the mental health field---put on your track shoes and run in the opposite direction with NO further contact
Do you guys believe he is still dangerous? Is this type of behavior something that never goes away? What might have caused him to kill? I want to make sure I give him the benefit of the doubt before dismissing him. Do you guys think he is crazy/ still crazy?
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Old 08-18-2011, 05:53 AM
 
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My guess is that you're sure these animals weren't killed as a result of hunting - that there was a different spirit/intent to these killings. If so, I agree with the others - you should trust your instincts and get out of that relationship. Chances are, even if there's a benign explanation, that you'd never really shake your doubt anyway - and who wants to carry that around in an intimate relationship?

Like someone else here mentioned - killing/torturing animals as a child is supposed to be a hallmark predictor of psycho/sociopathic personalities. (sorry, no citation for that)

There's a good book by Gavin DeBecker called The Gift of Fear - I'd recommend it to anyone, especially women, about trusting your gut reactions instead of being 'nice' and suppressing them (and potentially ending up in a world of hurt.)
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