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Old 02-17-2012, 01:33 PM
Location: Old Town Alexandria
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Originally Posted by CArizona View Post
I'm probably too analytical! If someone "gossips" to me I don't want to take it at "face value." I'm curious...I don't see things as just "black or white" or "good or bad" etc...What motivates people to "do what they do?" I like to take in as many factors as possible before I form any conclusions...I like to look at all possible "sides" in other words. And gather data and "play detective" etc...A lot of people believe what they are told (or taught.) They take what they hear at "face value" and repeat the info to others without doing any scrutinizing to make sure that their facts are accurate and "straight."...I don't want to be a "follower." I want to "dig deep" and check things out for myself. How do you feel about it? Thanks.
I dont look at it in black or white either, I had a friend that did..i.e. she would say " Theres no justice in the world."..I work in the legal arena and yes, I know there's two sides to every story, no one is 100 percent "right" or wrong (although some think they are, lol).

I can admit when Im wrong, I dont like self-absorbed people who bemoan everything thats happening to them all the time, I have enough drama in life, if I do socialize I am myself, I dont any longer feel like I have to conform (like when I was age 20 I was so worried about being a "people pleaser" and getting approval).

imo thats one of the positives about getting older, you no longer worry what "others may think" and do your own thing
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Old 02-17-2012, 02:41 PM
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Deep thinker here.
Participated in junior college debate team... and still do enjoy a good debate.
I like to hear what others have to say, even though not necessary agreeing but as a person who loves to collect info anyways... likes to listen & expand my own horizon as well.
I do "use" what I collect "info wise"... one way or another, good or even the bad... eventually. As chinese are fond of saying, you learn even unto as you get old, the more you grow, the more you learn.

Also interested in various languages... cultures.

All these added to real person in real life, I became quite a good gauge at "reading" a person (a knack I inherited from my mom; she is great at that too), via these info. Just ask my DH... it is scary to him even.
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Old 02-17-2012, 03:42 PM
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I loathe meaningful conversations. I am superficial, and not into deep discussions about anything with anyone. Please. I have to do stuff like that all day for work, the last thing I want to do on my free time is think about stuff.
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Old 02-17-2012, 05:16 PM
Location: Southwest Desert
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I need a good dose of light-heartedness to stay in balance. Being serious and studious 24/7 isn't healthy! ...But I can't help who I am either. Need to "dig my teeth" into things..I've been way out of "whack" since my husband died and my son's been in the hospital. We all used to get silly together at times and this helped...The only female friend I have in the local area "plays soldier" most of the time. When we go out together she "wears blinders" and goes directly from "point A" to "point "B" (etc.) with very little talking and she hardly ever laughs. If I ask her something she answers me. Then the conversation stops...Thank goodness she opens-up a teeny bit more on the phone but never in person. It would help if I had a few more "fun people" around me...My out-of-the-area friends are more well-rounded. We can go in-depth at times. But we always seem to find things to laugh and joke about too.
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