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Just you wait until you've lived to reach your forties, etc!
At the youthful age of 23 , you should be really resilient and quickly able to bounce back.
If not, then there is something wrong! You may have depression!!! Treated early and you will be back to your old self. Let is fester, and the cycle never ends!
Good luck!
P.S. Everyone has his own sack of rocks to carry.
Exactly!!!! I'm to the point of giving up at 43. Career over, marriage over, money running out. And oh yeah, women are no longer attracted to me since I'm in my 40's and always depressed. Life absolutely sucks. But, you still have time to turn it around. I'm pretty much done. Dreams shattered.
For awhile it felt like I was in the same boat.
But then I look at the countless problems people I know with a woman are consistently going through.
My advice, find different ways to keep your mind fully occupied. Whether it's a new career, hobby, chore, scheme, or even crime, women and any type of relationship will become a distant afterthought.
And if anyone wants to question that, there's a nice third finger and a door.
If you think you only get one chance, that's wrong. You get many chances to try again. There's no one, right path. We go down many paths, some are right and some are wrong. It seems like 23 was many lifetimes ago. I've met people and lived places I never dreamed. I've had good times and bad.
I work in job I enjoy because I realized I'm good at it (it was not my college major) with people who are pleasant enough in a city with pros and cons. My family loves and respects one another (we didn't when we were younger), and we accept each other's faults. We've learned to avoid certain topics because our belief systems are different. If family members are harmful, then stay away from them.
My friends are people I've chosen to be in my life based upon how they treat me. I avoid material, shallow, mean people. Relationships take time to develop, and sometimes they don't.
We have all regrets, and I try to have as few as possible by making better decisions. It's taken a long time, but I have forgiven mistakes, been grateful for what I have, and hope for something better.
No one has a perfect life. Most people I've met had bad parents, so we learned to overcome their parenting mistakes. I've learned to forgive my parents, too, because they weren't intentionally harmful.
For me, learning to forgive myself and others helped me go forward and create a better life.
nobody here has really read what you posted except that you're depressed...you really ought to seek counseling.not because you're crazy ,but the kind of personality change you speak of ,has been caused by events and circumstances and it's not always that easy to change back to what you were before..the mind often times accepts what you feel and think in you're subconscious as being the 'truth' and any effort to change back to what it was before as a 'lie' or 'false'...counesling won't hurt and you can often find inexpensive help by finding one that accepts payment based your income.it will be worth it to go to at least a few sessions to get the feel..if you don't like it after the 2nd or 3rd session then cancel or find another counselor if desired.Don't let anyone tell you that you're feeling sorry for yourself or that you need to pull up your big boy pants and carry on..people who say those things have mental problems of their own that they're not dealing with!!
It's hard. I keep thinking about my problems over and over again. It's almost addicting and a bad habit. Then when I think about them I get extremely angry. I should get over it but I can't.
Absolutely IS addicting playing the 'victim' card all the time. At 23 you have no clue as to what your REAL life will be, but I'm betting you want it better than it is now. Our 20s are for finding out who we are and what we like to do for a long haul for a career. It's a time of ups & downs, highs & lows, missteps etc. So stop BEING the victim or you certainly will make that your FULL TIME career and it's a road to nowhere! You don't need a female in your life right now. You'd only screw that up and possibly bring an innocent child into the mix... what a disaster that would be!
I'm not a huge fan of meds for depression as they have tons of side-effects, but I am a fan of cognitive behavioral therapy for depression. Maybe try that first. It isn't years of therapy...a few months should set you on track.
Absolutely IS addicting playing the 'victim' card all the time. At 23 you have no clue as to what your REAL life will be, but I'm betting you want it better than it is now. Our 20s are for finding out who we are and what we like to do for a long haul for a career. It's a time of ups & downs, highs & lows, missteps etc. So stop BEING the victim or you certainly will make that your FULL TIME career and it's a road to nowhere! You don't need a female in your life right now. You'd only screw that up and possibly bring an innocent child into the mix... what a disaster that would be!
I'm not a huge fan of meds for depression as they have tons of side-effects, but I am a fan of cognitive behavioral therapy for depression. Maybe try that first. It isn't years of therapy...a few months should set you on track.
How nice of you to stop by to berate someone having a mental health problem over 4 years ago. They are called *intrusive thoughts* and I hope that he isn't still having them.
No need to kick someone when they're down. "Tough love" never worked in 1985 and it certainly doesn't work in 2015.
What's the rest of story? Does your family have a history of mental illness? If so, what? What did your parents do for a living, and how were they as parents? Any problems with your parents? How about problems with your siblings or your place among your siblings? Were you an only child? Did you grow up in poverty? What kind of problems did you have in childhood? Any problems with school? Did you go to college? If so, what did you major in and are you happy with that major? If not, why not? If you didn't go to college, any regrets about not going?
How do you feel about your level of intelligence? Do you feel dumb, smart, average? Speaking of girls, what has your relationship with your mom, sisters, aunts, and the women in your life been like. Any girlfriends in the past? What happened with those relationships? If you have never had a girlfriend, why not, what happened? You sound obsessed with getting a woman, are you addicted to porn? Your father, what kind of role model was he?
What are your interests? Why don't you find peace and joy in your own activities, such as listening to music, working out, playing an instrument, eating and enjoying time with friends, and spending time with family? Are you happy where you live? If so, why? If not, why must you stay there? You speak of life, what exactly has beaten you down? How can life beat you down? Why let it? In 23 years, why haven't you found something to involve yourself with that gives you great pleasure and/or purpose in life?
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Treated early and you will be back to your old self. Let is fester, and the cycle never ends! 
what a disaster that would be!
So much more needs to be known
