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Originally Posted by bbekity
I feel like I am in worry mode 24/7 and none of it is directly related to me. Instead it is related to hearing about my Mom's issues with Dementia, etc while living across the country and can't really hold a conversation with her anymore and having an 18 year old who lives with us and is completely lost with no direction or aspirations that I worry and cry about daily. I don't know how to turn it off in my head. When I am out with my husband, all I usually talk about are my worries about our son which can quickly ruin a day out. Any suggestions on how to calm my mind and stop obsessing about things that are out of my control?
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Sorry to hear that, it seems that your concern for the well being of the ones you love is turning into obsessive fear because it is out of your control. It's a tough place to be.
This is what I do and have been doing for the last few years when I feel anxious, worried or stressed.
Sit or lay down and close your eyes. Slowly take one breath in and release it out slowly as well, somewhere between 4-6 seconds for inhalation and exhalation. Keep breathing. After 6-7 breaths picture your mother and your son in your mind's eye. It's great to focus on one at a time. Picture them at a time in their life when they were happiest. Hold the image and surround them with bright, white light. Picture them smiling or laughing, continue your breath. Feel in your body that all is well with them and that all will continue to be well. Continue breathing and capture the moment in your heart. Then slowly come back to regular breathing. Feel the peace in your heart. Throughout the day when worry starts to form in your chest, take a slow breath in and release and picture your image of them that all is well.
Hope that helps a little. Worrying about a family member especially a parent, child or spouse can be very upsetting. You know you cannot control what happens to them but you can control how you react. Taking steps toward a healthier you is the one thing you can control. Take care.