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Lovesmountains...this is why I deceived to leave...I have heard rhetoric like this before. It does no good for me andothers...and actually triggers me...so I am off this thread for good...thank you guys, I appreciate the stupor..lately I come to view citydata as an unsafe place for where I am right now...take care
Lovesmountains...this is why I deceived to leave...I have heard rhetoric like this before. It does no good for me andothers...and actually triggers me...so I am off this thread for good...thank you guys, I appreciate the stupor..lately I come to view citydata as an unsafe place for where I am right now...take care
I understand my friend.
You do what you have to do to be safe and healthy.
While I am a big proponent of forgiveness and what it can do for you, some very traumatic experiences set off a chain reaction of PHYSICAL symptoms that require more to overcome them than just the act of forgiving.
Yes, I'm very aware of that, but forgiveness is not only the best starting point, it can also cause positive physical changes as well.
Let me put it this way...it was the best thing I ever did and I've never seen real, genuine forgiveness NOT help someone.
Yes, I'm very aware of that, but forgiveness is not only the best starting point, it can also cause positive physical changes as well.
Let me put it this way...it was the best thing I ever did and I've never seen real, genuine forgiveness NOT help someone.
This is true for you.
You can share your experience with someone and it may or may not inspire them to do as you did, but you can't assume what the right course of action is for someone else.
i did not turn her in, but I think I should of, she is not mentally stable and she has a gun...legally too..so I do worry, I worry bout the day when she just loses it and comes for me, older people can get senile and do things anyhow, even if they are mentally well, so I do have that concern...my sister told my dad who did nothing, he said nothing, he did not care. EVeryone in my family goes on as if it never happened but me, I can't...I have a lifetime of pain that I must deal with and I do, I don't use this to excuse myself of not doing what I should do, I am actually doing better than most, because I want too, I do not use drugs, drink only wine with dinner, I live within my means, I take care of my body and my mind as much as I can...I will not let what was done to me to define me.
When I was young, I did not take care of myself, I smoked and drank and ran with a bad crowd, I did not ever hurt anyone and I did not do horrible things, but I was in situations that could of hurt or ended my life, now when I see that in others, it saddens me, cause I know there is something behind all that and it makes me very sad for them.
I just wanted to thank you guys for posting again, I also wanted to tell you that the poll is now closed and to thank you for it. I found it interesting that no one picked the last option, is what I had done for a long time, was to just ignore it and act as if it never happened...but thankfully i woke up and now I just stay away and pray for her and the rest of them, I can let it go...and just stay away...
You’re dad is just as responsible, he is certainly a willing accomplice. My dad pulled a gun on me in front of a bunch of kids, who ran like crazy. My mom says that I was a “difficult kid”. Damn them both, they should both be in jail. I was NOT a difficult child, I certainly have never been in jail or in gangs and graduated from high school and went on to college. While my Dr. father drank his ass off and played poker to win. Yeah, he carried a gun to the table. LOSERS!
Wow, this thread is super old but what a wild concept. I know the OP likely won't see this, but I'm sorry you've experienced this.
At the end of the day though, this is the sort of situation that you can't really know what you'd do until or unless you're ever actually in that situation. And depending on the circumstances, your decisions or behavior could vary even more. I think it would be very easy for me to say that I'd absolutely turn the person in - this behavior indicates that the person is a danger to others and quite likely themselves. Would I disown them? Who knows. Again, that's situational. Alcohol induced rage? Psychotic episode because of missed medications? History of mental illness vs. not?
Disowning is a weird word. You can love someone from a distance, even if that distance is them in jail or in the case of mental illness, an institution where they (and you) are safer from themselves.
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