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Old 12-18-2011, 06:29 PM
 
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The title says it all - do you ever have emotional pain and if so, how do you deal with it?

I want to have a friend or family member to talk to, but no one is available to hear emotional pain . . .

I have other methods I use (EFT, etc.) but wonder what other people do and what they would like if they had their 'druthers!
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Old 12-18-2011, 07:27 PM
 
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I become aware of it, feel it and hopefully release it ... through expression in the usual fashion (like crying) or releasing it energetically (often optimal imo).
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Old 12-19-2011, 12:26 AM
 
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Emotional pain is usually just a thought that the mind keeps repeating to itself. If you change your thoughts, your emotional pain will vanish. For example, say that you are sad that your girlfriend/boyfriend dumped you. This is not real sadness, but is caused by a thought that he/she was so great and he/she was "the one", and also that you are empty without this person and just can't function normally. But the truth is, that if you change your thoughts and realize that you are so much better without this person and that person was really annoying, and that you are looking forward to meeting someone so much better than them, then the emotional pain subsides or vanishes completely. You start to look at life in a much better positive way, and so your emotions follow your thoughts.

Now there is such a thing as true emotional pain such as if your beloved or a parent dies. This is true emotional pain because you don't need to think about it to feel sad, you just are.
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Old 12-19-2011, 11:59 AM
 
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It depends on the source of your emotional pain. I think everyone at some point experiences emotional pain. Whether it's the death of a loved one, divorce/break-up, rejection etc., you have to keep your mind occupied and develop coping methods that work for you. Not everyone will recover using the same process. One thing I will suggest, don't sit around and give your mind a playground. The worst thing you can do is allow yourself idle time to think.
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Old 12-19-2011, 04:49 PM
 
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It depends on the source of your emotional pain. I think everyone at some point experiences emotional pain. Whether it's the death of a loved one, divorce/break-up, rejection etc., you have to keep your mind occupied and develop coping methods that work for you. Not everyone will recover using the same process. One thing I will suggest, don't sit around and give your mind a playground. The worst thing you can do is allow yourself idle time to think.
Don't I know this, truer words never spoken. Sometimes you can think yourself into an abyss of sadness.
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Old 12-19-2011, 09:18 PM
 
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I've been through some major hard emotional pain in my day....and I dread it....(in me)it manifests itself into a very real physical pain as well....and that...is veeery hard to deal with...very exhausting...though I know that after some times gone by (for me a couple of days)..the physical pain goes away... and the mental pain...though longer lasting, will and does recede.
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Old 12-19-2011, 11:40 PM
 
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I have a lot of tools to deal with emotional pain, BUT what I really want/crave is to be listened to . . . heard, mirrored. If I can find a friend to do that, it helps . . . if I can't, it doesn't help so much to pay someone (like a therapist) to listen. It has to be someone who actually cares about me.

The people in my life who supposedly care about me are unable to hear my pain (I imagine because it triggers their pain or maybe it is just a pain in the butt and they don't want to be bothered . . .it is sort of a downer, although, I personally don't have a problem listening to people unless they are family members who have severe problems and are looking to me for a solution - I am not looking for solutions, just to be heard . . .) God, I sound like a broken record!
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Old 12-19-2011, 11:44 PM
 
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It usually comes down to either (a) ignoring it and moving along to let time ease it, (b) watching Disney movies till my mind is otherwise occupied, or (b) I beat the ever living crap out of a pillow or my mattress, screaming and cursing like a banshee until its all let loose.


In short, a good hissy fit releases the poison if all else fails. I tend to convert sad into mad.
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Old 12-19-2011, 11:46 PM
 
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I guess it matters what the issue is - if it is something from the past, it is easier to let go of than something causing you distress in the present . . .
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Old 12-20-2011, 12:12 AM
 
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I don't deal with it well at all, never have. The way I do it seems to ruin most my relationships. I don't confide in people I know and don't want to. Don't like therapy either. I should have been a person who lived alone by choice. I feel too much and express very little. I'm surprised I don't have an ulcer or a drinking problem.
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