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probably described as laid back to the point of 'uncaring,' which is inaccurate, just don't get all up in arms over most people the way I see others doing.
Lately I've run into quite a few people who seem very "business-like." (And I'm not just talking about actual "workers" in professional settings.).. People who tend to be "workaholics" in general can be this way...Very organized. They expect everyone around them to "cut to the chase" and get to "the point" fast! No time to waste!...Have you ever been around people like this?
I am a person like that. And have worked very hard to be less blunt, and less "let's get to the point"...because it is off putting to some folks. I have a co-worker, who drives me crazy sometimes, with her "chattiness"...but we work well together, because she is the "nice" one, and I am the one who gets things done. Folks go talk to her about their cat, whatever...then come to me with their issues.
jasper12...Thanks for sharing. I guess I can (and do) feel a little impatient with people when work needs to be done and they are "chatting away" about everything "under the sun!" (As if time has no meaning and someone else is going to "step-in" and do the work for us!)...I end-up feeling like an old "fuddy-duddy" if I'm around people who don't want to get the job over and "done with!" (Like I might at the time!)...Of course there are times when I can see that I have some resistance and reluctance when it comes to doing a project or job. (Personal projects not work-related.)...And it may take me awhile to "get going" in a serious and motivated kind of way. I have to "work-through" my passive-aggressive resistance...But in the end I "work-fast" and always meet the "deadline."...I think I might have some OCD issues or ?? It's hard for me to "make a mess" and scatter things all over. But this is what it takes to become "better organized" as the "end-result" Right??...If everything "stays in place" and nothing gets "moved" there won't be any "reorganization!" For some reason I don't always have supreme confidence in my "organizational skills" even though I could build on "past successes."....My husband did have confidence in his abilities. It was amazing to watch him. And he helped me "break things down" into "workable components." Now that my husband is gone I've had some "battles" and "struggles" at times. But I keep reminding myself that I've never missed a "deadline" yet and this helps! Sorry to go on and on! Whoa!
Doll Eyes...I can relate to what you wrote. I don't seem to "hook-in" to every little thing that is going on around me the way I might have in the past...I usually "take-in" what is being said or what someone is doing in my "outer sphere." I tend to be a pretty curious person. But I don't feel obligated to get "personally involved" in every situation. I can just sit quiety and "listen" if a conversation between other people seems interesting to me. I don't feel compelled to "jump in" and add my "2 cents" in other words...Or feel compelled to "save" or "rescue" or "instruct" everyone who just happens to "cross my path."...Is this how you feel too? Just curious. Thanks!
Doll Eyes...I can relate to what you wrote. I don't seem to "hook-in" to every little thing that is going on around me the way I might have in the past...I usually "take-in" what is being said or what someone is doing in my "outer sphere." I tend to be a pretty curious person. But I don't feel obligated to get "personally involved" in every situation. I can just sit quiety and "listen" if a conversation between other people seems interesting to me. I don't feel compelled to "jump in" and add my "2 cents" in other words...Or feel compelled to "save" or "rescue" or "instruct" everyone who just happens to "cross my path."...Is this how you feel too? Just curious. Thanks!
Ironically, IRL I also do not jump into people's goings on left and right, LOL. I just listen to what they say and sometimes shake my head at what is going on in their lives... Unless somebody does or says something to me offhanded I don't get involved. When you're like that people stick you with different negative labels the same as the they do with the loud mouths, so you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. I also feels people think they can run all over you when you're out outspoken, they have to be set straight on that one! Anyways, do you respond when people try to get you wrapped up in their dramas? I notice women's salon the ladies feel need to divulge all their private buisness to one another. I just go there to get my hair done....if you go to a barber do u notice this happening?
I am not into drama though, I used to work in New York City, with these women...and everything was DRAMA! I wonder if is a cultural issue...these women were crazy. Drama about everything.
I have my favorite subjects, my "causes" and can get a bit dramatic about them, but mostly am quieter around my family and associates. I'm the one of the group that gets asked what I'm thinking about, the most. I meditate and don't know how many of the others do so, regularly so I suspect that it has to be the reason I'm one of the more laid-back ones.
Well, then again I have tended to be all of my life. I remember at one huge, family reunion on the Texas coast that one aunt commented how my cousin, Curtis was this way, too and said she couldn't "hardly get a rise outta him." My mom then exclaimed that I was the same way.
There is a time and place for everything under the sun. Drama has its place. If someone is about to walk off a cliff, to exaggerate the point then drama is a given. Some folks won't wake up or pay attention with a message of a subdued tone.
Doll Eyes...Well I try not to get all "wrapped-up" in other people's problems. I'm caring. But right now I'm having trouble dealing with my own problems. So I try to be a little more "detached." How about you? Thanks.
Doll Eyes...Well I try not to get all "wrapped-up" in other people's problems. I'm caring. But right now I'm having trouble dealing with my own problems. So I try to be a little more "detached." How about you? Thanks.
i am usually 'detached' from people. learned my lesson long time ago, it doesn't pay to get all caught up in people.
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to one another. I just go there to get my hair done....if you go to a barber do u notice this happening?
