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Even though I have panic attacks (which at this point is the only reason I'm here), I'm a very laid-back person. No one knows I have them or when I'm having them even though they seem to happen the most in public. I just move through them. I use to try to be more dramatic because most people around me are and I figured it would make me more likeable to the masses, especially in my school and in the hospitals I go to. But I'm very laissez and like it like that now.
PrinieRN...Good that you found ways to deal with your panic attacks...I went through a period of having panic attacks earlier in life. (After a divorce.) Back then I didn't know much (or anything) about the stages of grief...And no one around me talked to me about grief. So I held all of my feelings "inside" for quite awhile and it took a big toll on me..I had a lot on my "plate" back then so I couldn't just stay home. Sometimes I really felt like I was going to "crack-up" but I tried to "hide" all of my feelings and pretend that I was "fine" and "okay."...I guess my "true feelings" came out through my nervousness and panic attacks...Eventually I let myself cry and "feel sad" and "get mad" and go through all the stages of grief concerning my divorce. I "felt better" and I felt ready to "move on" with my life after I let all of my feelings come "tumbling out." (Over time.) And my panic attacks stopped and finally went away after I let myself grieve.
I have Borderline Personality Disorder....does that answer your question?
I used to be very laid back, but my life has gotten more stressful and harder to cope with. I miss that girl who was happy with a C. I am in nursing school surrounded by type A students and teachers and it has brought out the worst in me.
I have Borderline Personality Disorder....does that answer your question?
I used to be very laid back, but my life has gotten more stressful and harder to cope with. I miss that girl who was happy with a C. I am in nursing school surrounded by type A students and teachers and it has brought out the worst in me.
You know...it's funny that I empathize. Because I'm also in nursing school with a lot of seemingly Type "A" personalities and it's easy to get sucked into that and mimic.
Most of the time I could be considered "laid back". But...when people push certain buttons for too long, then I become reactionary.
Generally, I think people should thing before they speak, but I know not everyone would agree with that. I think us laid back people frustate people who are more reactionary and vice-versa. But then again reactionary people don't always mix well together either!
looking4answers12...Good post! Have you been around many people who try to get a "rise" out of you? This is how my Mom used to put it...She would ask people if they were just trying to get a "rise" out of her. (Meaning: "Are you just trying to provoke or upset me or what?")...She really knew how to "lay things out on the table" while staying calm herself!...Sometimes she would say: "Are you trying to manipulate me?" Or "fool me?"...I always felt like she had "x-ray vision" and could see "right through" me and everyone!...I'm an "upfront" kind of person myself but I don't want to be blunt or "downright mean!"...My Mom used to say: "Spit it out! Don't beat around the bush and waste your time and mine!" I've said stuff like this at times too! How about you?
How would people reply to your mom when she asked these questions?
To answer your question "have I been around people who try to get a rise out of me"... the answer is "somewhat". But, to be more accurate, I have been around far too many people who simply don't respect me the way I feel I should be respected.
To be even more specific, I will say that these people aren't just disprespectul to ME, they are disrespectful to certain groups of people.
One might ask why I have these types of people in my life, if I don't like how I am being treated.
Of course, we can always choose who we spend our time with. But, some people are more difficult to eliminate from our lives than others.
I once had a friend who was disrespectful (one time too many), I pretty much just didn't pursue that frienship.
Family, on the other hand is a bit more difficult. My dad mistreated my mother and wasn't a great dad. He's not a completely BAD person, he is just quite unkind at times. He's not so bad that I think he deserves to be abandoned. BUT he's bad enough that I could not live with him and sometimes I have to take a "time out" from visiting.
My MIL has similar traits. My husbands best friend sometimes has some of these traits.
My sister...she is my biggest challenge right now. We both share the responsibility of making sure our father is cared for. She is "the big sister" and wears that title like a badge of honor! Although, I live closest to Dad and seem him most frequently, she has a tendency to dismiss my opinions, concerns etc. There is nothing I can do to have her view me as someone worthy of respect. Believe me I've tried!
I have Borderline Personality Disorder....does that answer your question?
I used to be very laid back, but my life has gotten more stressful and harder to cope with. I miss that girl who was happy with a C. I am in nursing school surrounded by type A students and teachers and it has brought out the worst in me.
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You know...it's funny that I empathize. Because I'm also in nursing school with a lot of seemingly Type "A" personalities and it's easy to get sucked into that and mimic.
Is that a requirement for nursing? I have two family members that are both nurses and BOTH have type A personalities. Both were in school at the same time and OMG, they were so competitive with each other! Then after they graduated it didnt end with where they worked, how much money they made and so on. A friend of mine is a nurse and she is very laid back, cool, sensitive and an awesome nurse. She has an amazing bedside manner. She said people are surprised to find out that nursing can be quite cut throat. Nursing school is amazingly hard. Hang in there!
Is that a requirement for nursing? I have two family members that are both nurses and BOTH have type A personalities. Both were in school at the same time and OMG, they were so competitive with each other! Then after they graduated it didnt end with where they worked, how much money they made and so on. A friend of mine is a nurse and she is very laid back, cool, sensitive and an awesome nurse. She has an amazing bedside manner. She said people are surprised to find out that nursing can be quite cut throat. Nursing school is amazingly hard. Hang in there!
lol Thank you. Every nurse I meet tells me that they don't even remember all the things they learned in nursing school and then I just (). lol But I feel it'll be worth it. I'm hopeful.
"OMG! OMG! The sky is falling! Guess what happened to me!"...Some people definitely have a tendency to "do drama" and react with "strong emotions" to events in their lives...Have you noticed this? And other people tend to be more "laid-back." Or they take the time to bring their emotions down to a "lower octave" before they share their thoughts and feelings and experiences with other people...I don't want to be a total "reactionary" if I can help it. This is why I try to process and deal with my feelings a little bit (first) instead of just "blurting" everything "out" when I'm in a highly emotional state..How do you feel about it? How would you define "drama?" How about "being stoic" or "reserved" versus being "reactionary?" How would you describe yourself?...I'd probably say that I'm a little more "reserved" but I do have "emotional outbursts" once in awhile. I'm more inclined to be "freer" with my positive emotions than my negative emotions. How about you? Thanks!
When I was in my twenties, long ago I remember being at a large, family reunion, and hearing an amusing conversation between my mom and one of my aunts. The aunt was saying she could never "get a rise" out of one of my male cousins. My mom chimed in quickly that she couldn't out of me, either. I am most often mellow, deep-thinking, laid back and a people-watcher. However, for everything there is a season and if needed and I encounter an injustice or outrage, you dang-tootin I can become forceful and very blunt. However...I think stoicism is highly underrated.
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Even though I have panic attacks (which at this point is the only reason I'm here), I'm a very laid-back person. No one knows I have them or when I'm having them even though they seem to happen the most in public. I just move through them. I use to try to be more dramatic because most people around me are and I figured it would make me more likeable to the masses, especially in my school and in the hospitals I go to. But I'm very laissez and like it like that now.
I have two family members that are both nurses and BOTH have type A personalities. Both were in school at the same time and OMG, they were so competitive with each other! Then after they graduated it didnt end with where they worked, how much money they made and so on. A friend of mine is a nurse and she is very laid back, cool, sensitive and an awesome nurse. She has an amazing bedside manner. She said people are surprised to find out that nursing can be quite cut throat. Nursing school is amazingly hard. Hang in there!
). lol But I feel it'll be worth it. I'm hopeful.
