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I know some people say that drunk people often speak the truth and I believe that to some extent BUT I, recently, have gotten drunk and said some horrible things to my husband such as he is a horrible dad and that I hated his guts! I DO NOT HATE MY HUSBAND but I think the reason I say some things is because I'm trying to get his attention. I feel really awful and I wish I could take it back. Anyone else out there have any input! I know i shouldn't drink and believe me thats the next thing on my agenda! I'm starting couceling b/c I think I truly have a problem. Someone please give me some input on what you think as well!
Counseling is the first step towards recovery, without a doubt. You and your counselor can decide on a treatment plan, which may include some joint sessions with your husband. He may also benefit from joining an Al_Anon group.
He would go to Alanon you would go to AA and Alanon, possibly. In order for this to work he goes to have to stop drinking as well. Until you lose the taste for alcohol and get the willpower you can't be around people that drink, it's a bad influence for you.
Don't go to A.A. unless you want to quit drinking for good and all. A.A. is an abstinence only program and if you don't seriously want or need to quit all forms of alcohol, then you'll be wasting your time and causing confusion with those who have to get and stay sober to live.
The A.A. book talks about 5 levels of drinkers in varying degrees, one who is not quite alcoholic but may one day be, and the others who go from bad to worse. The worst case drinkers seem to find the most success with the A.A. program.
If you don't fit this category, there are other programs which may be helpful, such as AVRT, SMART, Rational Recovery, Moderation Management, etc.
I don't believe the addage that drunk people are truthful. They are blunt. I like the saying, Take a horse thief and sober him up, then what you got? A sober horse thief.
Here's a really good and simple way to find out if you have a serious problem with booze and may give A.A. a second consideration; if you quit drinking and your problems go away, breathe easy, you were just a hard drinker. If you quit drinking and your problems get worse, yikes. Try a meeting or two.
Why can't a significant other join an Al-Anon group as the addict starts with AA?
They can and should !!
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I feel really awful and I wish I could take it back. Anyone else out there have any input! I know i shouldn't drink and believe me thats the next thing on my agenda! I'm starting couceling b/c I think I truly have a problem. Someone please give me some input on what you think as well!
