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Old 05-13-2012, 10:28 AM
 
Location: Beautiful hills
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I HATE Facebook, MySpace, etc for the invasion of privacy that it truly is.
How is it invasion of privacy if people voluntarily submitted their info and pictures?

If one doesn't want their privacy invaded, one should not take part in "social media". Simple.
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Old 05-13-2012, 10:46 AM
 
Location: Love, Epicenter
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How is it invasion of privacy if people voluntarily submitted their info and pictures?

If one doesn't want their privacy invaded, one should not take part in "social media". Simple.
That's why she doesn't participate in it (I hope). She doesn't want her privacy invaded. Besides, the stalkers could find out exactly what she's doing and who she's talking to and where she lives () then bother her in more ways than they already are...
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Old 05-13-2012, 10:56 AM
 
Location: Islip,NY
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Plus with FB and those other sites you don't have to post alot of information about yourself and you can make it only accessible for friends. I don't use FB, twitter or any other social media sites either. If she has someone stalking her it's better that she is not on any of those sites.
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Old 05-13-2012, 11:17 AM
 
Location: Beautiful hills
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stalkers... yikes!
It is best to be "invisible" in such situations.
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Old 05-13-2012, 03:28 PM
 
Location: Old Town Alexandria
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How is it invasion of privacy if people voluntarily submitted their info and pictures?

If one doesn't want their privacy invaded, one should not take part in "social media". Simple.
FB is only for people who sign up

She said she doesnt text or IM. Disable IM, its no big consoiracy, you just block it.

If you want IM and Presence, then just disable the user from Lync. If you want the user's presence to be hidden, but still want the user to be able to IM, you can enable the "Appear Offline" parameter in the client policy.
http://technet.microsoft.com/en-us/library/gg398300.aspx
Set parameter -EnableAppearOffline to true

There are tens of millions of people online. Higly doubtful every piece of Spam is a personal stalker.
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Old 05-15-2012, 01:51 AM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Well, I was going to post in my thread that got closed. I don't know why it was closed. Stalking is a real issue.

Anyway, I got IMs from someone called Candy_Misty5. Well, as you all can see, my username here is Misty. What you don't know is that there is a 5 in my password. I do not do IMs and there is no reason for anyone to be sending me an IM. I don't do text messages either.

So...I'm thinking that this isn't a coincidence either. This is really starting to irritate me. I don't know how to delete my email address permanently and you'd be surprised at what messages I've been sent. This is cyberstalking. Oh well, the bright side is at least it's FBI territory.
Guess I'll be one of the few to agree this probably isn't a coincidence.

Someone has your number (no pun intended), and knows you'll give them recognition and spend days worrying. Its subtle harassment.

Chances are it won't go further than it has, but to be on the safe side change you email and passwords.

If you do need to contact the FBI, theres a difference between requests and demands.

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Old 05-15-2012, 03:27 AM
 
Location: Love, Epicenter
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Guess I'll be one of the few to agree this probably isn't a coincidence.

Someone has your number (no pun intended), and knows you'll give them recognition and spend days worrying. Its subtle harassment.

Chances are it won't go further than it has, but to be on the safe side change you email and passwords.

If you do need to contact the FBI, theres a difference between requests and demands.
Sometimes if I think that if something is worded in a certain way that fits in with a person's fears and perceptions, it can easily win over affirmation.
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Old 05-16-2012, 12:03 AM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Sometimes if I think that if something is worded in a certain way that fits in with a person's fears and perceptions, it can easily win over affirmation.
Not sure what point you're trying to get across.

I'm a DV survivor, have advocated, familiar with harassement, stalking and court cases. It can go on for years.

When an obsessed mind has it in for you, don't underestimate what they'll do, some of it covert and seems insignificant to an outsider.

Unfortunately the OP is prime target and the harasser knows she'll be alarmed, dwell and worry. Thats the intent, a psychological game to cause an emotional reaction.

Unless you're familiar with the mentality, its difficult to recognize.

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Old 05-16-2012, 01:53 AM
 
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Guess I'll be one of the few to agree this probably isn't a coincidence.

Someone has your number (no pun intended), and knows you'll give them recognition and spend days worrying. Its subtle harassment.

Chances are it won't go further than it has, but to be on the safe side change you email and passwords.

If you do need to contact the FBI, theres a difference between requests and demands.
I don't make demands. I go on the record. And I have contacted the FBI. I did that a long time ago when it started. If I am to be offed, I at least want justice.

I rec'd four phone calls in a row yesterday and no one left a message. I didn't even bother to do a reverse look up.

Right now I don't really care. This trauma has morphed into a bigger trauma and I mean a completely different one.

I won't bring it up in this thread, but stalking is so yesterday. I just want a friggin break from everything!
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Old 05-16-2012, 02:48 AM
 
Location: Love, Epicenter
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Alright, I can honestly say I tried to do my part.

I looked through your history on this forum. I don't discredit that you were assaulted in the past, you shared that story. But, as Maslow's Hierachy of needs dictates, something more recent and physical happened.

Misty, all the best to you, okay? And I hope all goes well with your mom.
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