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Originally Posted by Trimac20
Use your mind and your rational thoughts to fight it...you can't FEEL it away, you've got to REASON it away.
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I'm good at reasoning, but when my husband ripped apart our family, reason was not what I felt. Hot rage followed by calm. I'd let some of the rage and frustration and grief out for a few minutes, then I'd send it away. Reasoning isn't going to help this. Only getting where you feel safe enough to let yourself be angry, let yourself feel it, express it and own it as yours. Not the background person who you let out once in a while.
The writing exercise is intellectual, and reasoning. But it won't help if the often repressed anger is not vented. You need to feel it and claim it and then you can look at it openly. I couldn't go there until I spent some time crying and funing and writing him a few letters (unsent) to tell him what I felt about him. Putting it into actual words made it possible to look further.
I can reason problems which are not deeply emotional based, but they don't keep me from sleeping. This kind of trauma must be dealt with in all its angles.