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Old 07-27-2018, 09:22 AM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, OK
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The job market is the toughest test for anyone. As my husband and a few friends have told me it isn't always the resume or the school they graduated from, it's the whole package. There are many applicants that are equality qualified. It's whether they're looking for someone that's married, because married people are more stable. A more mobile job would better suit a single person due to not having the spouse and kids to worry about. Yes, a job interview is a lot about how you present yourself but you also need to ask them what the company will do for you. It's a two way street. Yes, I will work for you but in return, what will you do for me? How can I advance within your company as an electrical engineer when you're a chemical company? Actually, your response makes me think you should visit the jobs section of this forum and get better information.

My dad said on a resume the first few sentences need to catch his eye. Then he looks for someone who is committed that thinks outside the box. Willing to listen and to learn. A lot of it is the work ethic, too. At one time he was in acquisitions for Pluess Staufer (OMYA) yet his degree was in accounting. He was cut throat in hiring and firing, always putting the company first in his decisions.

My son went through so many interviews and job applications, he just sees it as a process. At one time he and a lady were the two being considered and he was dropped. He didn't have any experience in the industry and she did. Sure he was upset and talked about it but moved on. You can't get your hopes up every single time.
Very true. My buddy and I talk about this all the time. Both of us are in financial services, and the recession affected our careers. Almost wrecked mine completely. Miracle I found something stable and also advanced, albeit in a city I hate. But people who have never been out of a job don't get it. They think they could find a job within a month or 2 if they lost theirs. Not so,, even in this economy. financial services will never be back to what it was in the mid-late 90's. Unfortunately, I was too young and dumb then to move up fast enough and I didn't move to NYC. I still feel the trauma of '08-'10. It has permanently changed how I think, much like the Great Recession did for the silent generation. It has permanently set me back and pushed out retirement.

Also, being divorced and middle aged with no kids makes me feel like a complete outsider, especially living in Oklahoma. Its awful.
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Old 07-27-2018, 09:43 AM
 
Location: East Midlands, UK
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Very true. Often, when they reach out, it is obligatory since they know I am alone. I find couples generally prefer to socialize with other couples. There is nothing wrong with that, but it does help cement my view.
I don't think I'd want to socialize with couples anyway and be a third wheel. Rather stay at home with my video games
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Old 07-27-2018, 11:25 AM
 
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Stop watching is the solution. Stop giving a sh1t.
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Very true. Often, when they reach out, it is obligatory since they know I am alone. I find couples generally prefer to socialize with other couples. There is nothing wrong with that, but it does help cement my view.
I am single, sold my condo to move to a new city, and still have a lot of friends who are married and/or have kids. I don’t really see this as something that keeps me from making friends. No one prefers to hang out with other couples or hangs out with me out of obligation because I am single. That said, I don’t feel “behind” because I am not married and don’t have kids. I am a fortysomething who just hasn’t really been interested in those things.
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Old 07-30-2018, 12:13 AM
 
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Very true. My buddy and I talk about this all the time. Both of us are in financial services, and the recession affected our careers. Almost wrecked mine completely. Miracle I found something stable and also advanced, albeit in a city I hate. But people who have never been out of a job don't get it. They think they could find a job within a month or 2 if they lost theirs. Not so,, even in this economy. financial services will never be back to what it was in the mid-late 90's. Unfortunately, I was too young and dumb then to move up fast enough and I didn't move to NYC. I still feel the trauma of '08-'10. It has permanently changed how I think, much like the Great Recession did for the silent generation. It has permanently set me back and pushed out retirement.

Also, being divorced and middle aged with no kids makes me feel like a complete outsider, especially living in Oklahoma. Its awful.
This.

There is zero compassion when you are unemployed.
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