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Old 06-04-2012, 08:57 AM
 
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Is anyone else going through this? I feel so alone right now.
Due to bad luck/no luck and some metal health issues I haven't gotten very far in my life. Pretty much everything has been a failure or has come to nothing. What makes this worse is that I'm constantly surrounded by people who seem to "have it all." Good relationships, good jobs, good health, good mental health, good friends, etc. It seems so easy for these people. Not saying that life hasn't handed these people some hard times but in the end everything seems to work out and they usually come out in an even BETTER situation. They are always trading up while I just stay at zero.
I know we aren't supposed to compare ourselves to other people but when other people's "riches" are thrown in your face daily it's kind of hard not to notice. All of this leaves me feeling very depressed and like I don't know what to do or try next. I feel totally lost in life.
I'm interested in hearing from other's going through this same thing. Am I the only one feeling like this?
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Old 06-04-2012, 11:55 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
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just show you that life isn't fair that's all. people and their success stories in life don't do nothing for me personally, never have. i mean good for them and all, mostly they just wants to rub it in everyone's faces that's in a rut in life, how great things are going for them or how they got out of a bad situation like yours & now life is gravy. who cares?
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Old 06-04-2012, 11:59 AM
 
Location: earth?
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As they say in 12th step programs: Don't compare your insides to other people's outsides . . .in other words, you really have no idea what is going on with anyone and it is fruitless and destructive to compare yourself to anyone else. You are unique. You have your own life path. Make the most of your life, starting today. Wallowing in self-pity will keep you stuck. Look up methods of becoming more positive. The info is out there. Good luck.

And start doing things that will cause you to respect yourself.
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Old 06-04-2012, 12:11 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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No one has it all and sometimes people just seem to have it all when behind closed doors their relationships are miserable or they are drowning in debt. You never know what someone else's life is really like.
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Old 06-04-2012, 12:13 PM
 
Location: where people are either too stupid to leave or too stuck to move
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Dear god yes! My friends are gettin married,going to med school, working jobs and I'm a loser stuck at home. So depressing because I did everything right !
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Old 06-04-2012, 12:16 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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Dear god yes! My friends are gettin married,going to med school, working jobs and I'm a loser stuck at home. So depressing because I did everything right !
Why are you stuck at home? If you're staying at home feeling sorry for yourself everyday instead of getting out there then no wonder your friends are being successful and you aren't.
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Old 06-04-2012, 03:43 PM
 
Location: Visitation between Wal-Mart & Home Depot
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You see what everyone else puts out to the world. Your friends on Facebook, for example, get to present the image that they want to present. It's a cherry-picked snapshot of their respective lives and hides the bad stuff. You can see all of your good and all of your bad at once, so you feel that there is something wrong.

When I was younger I reported to an interview and the interviewer immediately told me that I had submitted an excellent resume. I thought "It had better be good, I WROTE IT!"

I guess what I'm trying to say is that you should be more of an optimist about yourself and more of a cynic about everyone else. Some people really are killing it, most people are faking it.
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Old 06-04-2012, 03:51 PM
 
Location: where people are either too stupid to leave or too stuck to move
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Why are you stuck at home? If you're staying at home feeling sorry for yourself everyday instead of getting out there then no wonder your friends are being successful and you aren't.
you don't know me, so don't assume things
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Old 06-04-2012, 04:21 PM
 
Location: Mississippi
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I have a friend who has a miserable life, but she does have many materialistc things and appears to have the perfect marriage. She spends all of her energy trying very hard to portray that she has it all. A lot of times those people who you think have it all really don't. I also know people who got everything they always wanted, but because thye didn't fix what was going wrong inside of them they could never truly be happy.
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Old 06-04-2012, 04:23 PM
 
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You see what everyone else puts out to the world. Your friends on Facebook, for example, get to present the image that they want to present. It's a cherry-picked snapshot of their respective lives and hides the bad stuff. You can see all of your good and all of your bad at once, so you feel that there is something wrong.

When I was younger I reported to an interview and the interviewer immediately told me that I had submitted an excellent resume. I thought "It had better be good, I WROTE IT!"

I guess what I'm trying to say is that you should be more of an optimist about yourself and more of a cynic about everyone else. Some people really are killing it, most people are faking it.
I understand what you are saying. Most people are just getting by and pretending that they are "golden", however, they seem to be getting by comfortably and can achieve at least the minimal trappings that society dictates that we should have. For a host of reasons I haven't been able to do this. And I'm not some young kid here either. I've tried being positive, I've read self-help books, I've gone to college, I've been in relationships, etc. It all just comes back to nothing whereas others seem to be constantly building up. I've known a few people who have gone through divorces but have gone on to find even better spouses. I've known people who have lost their jobs and it wasn't hard for them to find an even better job. Things seem to move upward for other people but I can't make it happen and I don't have the energy or the enthusiasm of a 25 year old anymore to "blast" through the heartaches and loss. If anything this stuff matters more now because I feel that I am running out of time and I have no idea what to do next. Every direction I turn looks like a locked door and I have no idea how to get the key to open it. I'm starting to think that the doors just magically open for most people.
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