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Old 06-05-2012, 07:50 AM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, OK
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So I'm real big on self improvement and figuring out where my weaknesses are. My last girlfriend asked me what I disliked most about myself, and I told her it was that I am an introvert. She couldn't believe it. So for those who don't know, ISTJ stands for "Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, and Judgement". So as an introvert who has always been shy, combined with depression, I believe this is an extreme weakness. Also, my "T" score is very high, meaning I overanalyze everything and get stuck in my head. The result is no risk taking, whether its cold calling potential employers or asking women out. I hesitate all the time because I want to say the "right" thing. I feel like I've just missed so many opportunities in life just because of my personality. I've tried to change it so much because I feel flawed. It hasn't worked though. I'm slightly less introverted, but its been a constant battle. Would love to hear others experiences and what has worked or hasn't.
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Old 06-05-2012, 08:23 AM
 
Location: New Jersey
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I'm an ISTJ and have no problem with it.
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Old 06-05-2012, 01:08 PM
 
Location: Cushing OK
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Why should being introverted be a fault? Society likes to say that but its how one is made. I tried to be more 'outwards' when I worked in an office, but all it did was make me just really want to go home and hole up in my room.

On the Myers Briggs, I'm always INTJ, but the N varies according to my mood as there are some questions which my answer would be somewhere in the middle. I took it deliberately answering yes and then no, to see the range. But the I is always 100. It's just me. I've always been this way and mom was too. When I gave up trying to pretend, I discovered that I'm far happier because I'm being me. Try to accept yourself as *you*. We're all different, and its *okay* to be different. You can't be who you are not unless you shut yourself off from the real person inside.
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Old 06-05-2012, 02:27 PM
 
Location: between here and there
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I'm an introvert. Always thought it had more to do with my dysfunctional upbringing and constant criticism of every little thing I did and said. You know, the shy little girl who blushed when someone just looked her direction.

As I got older, I realize I just was not comfortable around groups of people because I too was afraid of saying the wrong thing/ sounding stupid and blamed it again, on another offshoot of a having 6 older brothers. I could never say a thing without being ridiculed to tears by them.....

Finally, I came across the introverts handbook persay and found that---wallah-- I'm a full- blown introvert!!!!! And I'm married to a closet introvert as in he claims he wants to " get out and party like a rock star" but the few times we do, he tells me later he wishes we had just cuddled on the couch and watched some bad tv or took a long hike in the woods! He'll get it one day!!! LOL

I think you'll find a lot of introverts in these forums because it fulfills our need for interaction but on our terms....no Snazzy Nazzy overpowering us with their overthetop extrovert-ism and forcing us to shrink away into the background while our lip twitches....


And why do we sometimes feel uncomfortable in our introvert coats?

Because society constantly yells at us that being alone is unhealthy!!!! But I never feel healthier than when I'm taking a long, quiet walk in the woods listening to and watching nature unfold before me and letting my mind wander in any direction it wants with no one telling me I'm an oddity!!!!

Peace fellow introverts.......

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Old 06-05-2012, 02:33 PM
 
Location: St. Louis, Missouri
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well, apparently, I am an ISTJ, too .... and I'm alright with that.....
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Old 06-05-2012, 04:26 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma
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Yay, other introverts! ./////.
I'm an INFP, so my experiences are probably different than yours, but we should all be okay with our inrovertyness. Society says we're the weirdos, the eccentric ones, but is it such a crime to go against standards? I say no.
Nyaa~
Love, the surreal introvert,
HorrorHound.

(i also have schizotypal disorder, is that common with any other introverts?)
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Old 06-05-2012, 04:49 PM
 
Location: Reno (Cold Springs) NV
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From the philosophical mind of the immortal Popeye “I yam what I yam, and that's all what I yam”. The world needs all 16 types.
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Old 06-05-2012, 05:37 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma
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From the philosophical mind of the immortal Popeye “I yam what I yam, and that's all what I yam”. The world needs all 16 types.

Yup! What type was popeye?
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Old 06-06-2012, 03:06 PM
 
Location: Reno (Cold Springs) NV
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Yup! What type was popeye?
INFP or ISTP from other sites. INFP sounds better to me.
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Old 06-06-2012, 03:20 PM
 
Location: St. Louis, MO
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My husband is an ISTJ and I am an ENFP- so in essence we're polar opposites, although we never argue or really get into any huge disagreements. Our marriage is probably one of the happiest marriages amongst our friends. There's nothing wrong with ISTJs at all
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