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Old 07-08-2012, 05:57 PM
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To be very honest and rather blunt, he doesn't sound bipolar. It sounds a lot like he's manipulating you...you are not responsible for his mental health. Even if he were bipolar, you would not be responsible. That's far too much pressure for another person to carry, especially if he's saying things like he feels like dying if you aren't there. I would advise you to seek counseling for yourself to discuss if you are in a codependent or possibly abusive relationship. Using sucidie or depression as a means to control your significant other is a common tactic of abuse.
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Old 07-09-2012, 08:32 AM
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Originally Posted by Monica Statler View Post
thank you everyone, I realy appreciate this, and well the sad thing is that he is not on med, because he thinks it doesn't help at all. well when I'm there with him he is all fine and perfect, he never gets depressed and if he does I help him you know by loving him and taking him out for a walk or something or just being there and cook something that I know he loves and that makes him feel better, but now that I'm in TX and he is in Colorado, and I haven't being with him for 3 months, but I WILL BE THERE WITH HIM NEXT WEEK, he is being getting really depressed lately and it's kind of hard for me to make him feel better through a phone or computer, and I would like to make him understand that his family loves him and I do too OBVIOUSLY but it just seems so hard for him to understand that when I'm so far away, I just wish there was a way to show him I still love him even if I can't be there with him and to tell him that he has to stay strong when I can't be there with him because when Im not there he gets so sad and depressed and it hurts me alot, it hurts seeing the person you love being like that
There are those who are very depressed and are non violent then theres those who are ; so long as he is non violent toward you then its safe for you to live with him. But one of the things youll have to protect yourself from is not allowing his depressed, negative state start bringing YOU down . Being around someone like this day in and day out can have a toxic effect on a healthy person. If hes not willing to get on meds or at least join a support group for Depressed People, then he is in denial and a rather selfish person for not wanting to work at overc oming this disease and making your marriage satisfying. Im afraid you will reach a point where you admit to yourself that this is going to be hopeless . I trust it wont come to this end.
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